Recognition, Acceptance, and Coordination are three really important steps to be successful.
How do we coordinate all these contrary parts of self, contradicting beliefs, conflicting emotions and have some sense of being our true self? That is the age old quandary. A spiritual psychological approach with a lot of wisdom provides a five part process that I find very helpful. Psychosynthesis instead of Psychoanalysis. Bring together instead of separate into parts (although that is a helpful step in the beginning).
To truly be successful, we need to have all of our self on the same page. If the scared part of us is afraid to act, the cynical part of us completely assured that nothing ever works out, and the hopeful part of us thinking only positive thoughts, what do you think we radiate out to the universe? We are broadcasting very mixed signals, very conflicting feelings, and certainly opposite beliefs. Our vibration is confusing. What does the universe listen to when we are sending out such a mess of conflict?
Recognition of the conflict is the first step. Become aware that we have a small part inside, and a critical part inside, and an adult inside. Becoming conscious of the little “Family” of selves inside who have different thoughts, different beliefs, and different feelings is very helpful. Becoming conscious of our inner confusion is the first step because we are beginning to Recognize aspects of ourselves.
While not easy to do at first, Acceptance that we are a mixture of confusing signals is the next step. Beating up on ourselves is NOT the next step. Although if you have a critical part inside, you can bet that it will certainly want to go into action and tell you that you are bad and wrong for having such an internal bunch of feelings and thought. That is why you really need to reach for acceptance. Because you are able to step back, breath, see yourself, and accept yourself as you are. I have written a whole category on acceptance, which you might find helpful.
Coordination is the third step in which you take your new awareness (recognition), your new acceptance of who you are just as you are, and you begin to coordinate your personality in such a way that you can harmonize all these different points of view that is sending conflicting messages into the universe.
In future posts, we will cover these very critical steps of the process of making the signals you send out from yourself to be what you want to be emitting, rather than having yourself be reactive to whatever is happening to you. Yes. This personal journey is work. But the benefits are so worth it, and you can DO IT. IT is possible. So hold the faith. Care for yourself and others, become aware of what you think, feel, and believe, and come back here to read about the next steps.