Optimists’ success secrets are necessary for success. You have just been given a salary increase. You have found a great apartment. Your house sold. What do you say to yourself and others? Your car won’t start. Your toilet breaks. What kind of story do you tell when you have a ‘string of bad luck.” Are you an optimist or a pessimist? Do you have the success secrets of optimist?
What you think, how you think and what you say are fundamental success secrets. Optimists have proven to be more productive and successful. Pessimists prove their world view time after time. Pessimists are less healthy, more stressed, achieve less, and live shorter lives than optimists. You can learn optimism – which is more optimal than pessimism. Optimism, positive attitudes and positive thinking can be learned success secrets.
How do you explain the positive and negative things that happen in your life? When you get a promotion or an increase in sales, what do you say to yourself and others? It is possible to identify optimism ways of thinking and distinguish them from pessimism thought patterns. A success secret is learning the key difference between optimism and pessimism.
How you think about and explain to yourself and others the positive and negative events in your life is an important success secret. It determines whether you are an optimist or a pessimist. Let’s look at the difference between optimists and pessimists.
Viewing Problems: Optimists’ Success Secrets
Optimists think about their problems in a specific way.
Optimists believe their problems are not permanent and have nothing to do with the future
Optimists believe their problems are from outside themselves (not their fault)
Optimists believe their problems will affect only a small part of their world.
The Success Secret that Optimists have is how they think about themselves. They believe the problems are not caused by them; that this is temporary; and this problem does not affect every part of their life.
Pessimists think about their problems absolutely differently.
Pessimists believe their problems are permanent and will be there in the future.
Pessimists believe their problems are their fault.
Pessimists believe their problems will affect most every part of their day to day life.
The impaired success secret Pessimists have is how they think about themselves. They see themselves at fault, believing that this will continue to be the way things are, and this state is affecting everything in their life.
Positive Events: Optimist Success Secrets
Optimists look at positive events in a certain way.
Optimists believe positive events like promotions happen because of themselves and what they do and what they contribute.
Optimists believe the positive events are a sign that more positive things will come.
Optimist look forward to more positive things to come because they believe what they do contributes to a positive result. (They believe they have some control on the outcome).
The success secrets of optimists are they can see their strengths, know that those strengths and talents contribute to positive outcomes.
Pessimists look at positive events in a certain way.
Pessimists believe that positive things that happen to them are a lucky or freak accident.
Pessimists believe that positive things that happen to them are flukes, and probably won’t happen to them again. (Expectation)
Pessimists believe that positive things that happen are outside their control.
Pessimists are success impaired. Pessimists believe nothing they did created a positive result ((losing access to the success secret).
The success secrets of optimism is that optimist see a positive cause and effect between what they do and positive results. They actively look for what created the success.
Another success secret is Belief in Self. Positive events confirm an optimist’s belief in themselves. They believe good things will happen now and in the future. Positive events confirm an optimist’s belief in life.
Pessimists believe that positive things are just lucky, that nothing they did helped create the positive event now, and therefore they don’t expect more good things now or in the future (losing access to the success secret).
Impaired success of pessimists is that they believe they always cause bad things to happen (losing access to the success secret).
Negative Events: Optimist Success Secrets
When the toilet breaks or the car won’t start; Optimists look at positive events very differently than pessimists.
Optimists believe negative events that happen are a fluke and are not a result of what they did. They don’t believe negative events will affect all areas of their life. They contain their thoughts about what happened. (They keep their thoughts ‘local’ or ‘specific’ to this particular event),
Optimists believe the negative events are not their fault.
Optimists believe that negative events have nothing to do with their future.
Optimism success secrets are that optimists don’t cast blame on themselves or others. A person is not “the cause.”
Pessimists look at negative events in ways that hurts themselves. When the toilet breaks, the car won’t start, or they get passed over for a promotion, their thoughts are diametrically opposed to optimist ways of thinking.
Pessimists believe negative events are caused by them.
Pessimists believe because the negative events or mistakes are their fault that more mistakes will follow in the future.
Pessimists believe that more negative events and mistakes will happen in all areas of their life because they cause them. They globalize one event to their entire life. Therapists call this globalized thinking. The toilet broke and the car battery died because “I just do stupid things”. I must have leaned too much on the toilet top. I must have left some light on in the car that caused the battery to die.
Pessimists are Success-Impaired. They don’t have access to success secrets.
Another Optimist’s Success Secret is that optimists let negative events roll off themselves. They contain thoughts about this negative event to now and limit its effect to just a small area of their life. The toilet breaking is not going to affect their marriage.
Success-Impaired Pessimists believe they are wrong (losing access to the success secret). They believe they will always make more mistakes. They globalize being wrong, to now and to the future, and to all areas of their lives. They may even think that something is wrong with them.
This is what the researchers have been able to define. I believe that optimists think in terms of what I DO. Pessimists make it about WHO I AM.
Optimist’s success secret is that they tell a positive story to themselves and to others about the things that happen in their lives.
Pessimists impair their success (losing access to the success secret) by telling a negative story to themselves and to others. Often pessimists sound like victims. The universe and the world along with themselves have conspired to serve up awful life happenings.
Optimists have formula; a success secret. Here are seven Success Secrets.
SUCCESS SECRETS OF OPTIMISTS
Optimist Success Secret 1: Optimists see problems as temporary not permanent. Things will continue to change.
Optimist Success Secret 2: Optimists contain problems. Problems do not color their whole life when they happen (kept contained to and only affect a small area of their life).
Optimist Success Secret 3: Optimists look at problems as just a challenge to solve. They are caused by external situations not by a person.
Optimist Success Secret 4. Optimists actively look to see what attributes in themselves contributed to a positive outcome (ex. they got their job promotion was because they are so persistent and methodical). They actively look for their strengths.
Optimist Success Secret 5: Optimists actively look for what situations cause the problem and don’t see a person as the cause.
Optimist Success Secret 6: Optimists tell themselves positive stories about themselves (self talk). Optimists tell positive stories to others about what is happening in their lives.
Optimist Success Secret 7: Optimists look forward to success in the future. Positive events are signs that more success is on its way. Therefore they expect more success.
Some aspects of ourselves have a negative outlook. Some aspects of ourselves have a positive outlook. See UnKnown Secret of You . The Orchestra of You reviews different parts of self.
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