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What Takes Us Out of Flow

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2015

A couple of weeks ago, I was in the strongest current of flow that I have ever experienced.  I wanted to shout from the rooftops about how wonderful Life is. Slowly that state of Flow ebbed away, and I was just determined to find out how it went away and recapture it.

Today, I woke with such sadness that I wanted to weep. Yesterday, I wrote and wrote. Today. I wept a little, then listened to a concert that I sang in two weeks ago, and found my smile again.

I needed to update this web site. I found the passwords and started the process, and before you know it, I had a mess on my hands. There were broken links. When I went to correct one, another would show up.  I tried to fix one on the blog entry “What Two Ingredients Put You Into Flow.”  I must have needed to relearn that lesson again and again, because every time I fixed something, something else went out of whack.

In the process, I remembered and relearned about what helps to get into Flow, what takes me out of Flow, and How to Return to Flow.

Broken Links

These times are helping us find the broken links inside ourselves so that we can Restore ourselves to our natural State of Being which I call Flow.

  1. Physical Exhaustion can take us out of Flow. After the concert on December 12, I was exhausted, and though I gave myself some time to replenish, it wasn’t enough.
  2. Berating ourselves can take us out of Flow. I pushed myself to get presents in the mail to my daughter for her birthday (which is today) and for Christmas. I wasn’t entirely happy with the pajamas I got for her, and then I missed getting them to the Post Office before closing. I had this quiet but hurtful conversation with myself about not having chosen the right gifts, and not having gotten to the post office in time.  While I have really significantly improved my self-talk, I was susceptible to more negative talk to myself because I cared that I got my daughter’s presents to her before she flew out today, and because I was tired.
  3. Focusing on the negative in the situation rather than in the positive will take you out of Flow.  When I was in the state of Flow two weeks ago, both positive and negative were happening in my life.  I just wasn’t reactive to the negative, and I paid more attention to the positive.  I sold my car two weeks ago.  I spent all Fall getting ready for the sale, and it hadn’t happened.  I determined that I would sell it a particular Saturday. Even though I had the remnants of a migraine headache, I awoke, went to Craig’s list, edited my past ad and got it listed. Two hours later I had a phone call, and 2 hours after that my car was sold.  I was in Flow. My hurting head was not what I focused on.  My car Sold!  When a couple of weeks later I was tired, and started “beating up on myself,” my focus changed from what was going well, and wonderful, to what was going wrong.
  4. Reacting to external circumstances (from our smaller parts) will take us out of Flow.  One of my neighbors parked too close to me the night I was taking my packages to the post office.  I got irritated because I was in a hurry, and it slowed me down to drop my packages, and to skinny through the slender opening.  I spoke sharply about that to my neighbor whom I was taking to pick up her car from the repair shop.  Contrast that scenario with the one two weeks ago, where I went to the morning rehearsal and there was no parking. It was raining hard, there was traffic everywhere, but I found joy seeing my town doing the Jingle Bell Run with their dogs – in the rain. After the rehearsal, I walked back through the rain and cold, and when I got to my beautiful new car, I burst into tears of Joy. I was cold, wet, and tired, but my heart was thrilled that I had this new little car in my life.  I enjoyed the tears and the feeling of deep appreciation that came from being in the Zone, in the Flow. Being present to the moment in its joys and sorrows, and all its realities is a part of Flow.  Reacting from the smaller part of me takes me out of Flow.
  5. Caring what others think more than caring about how we feel will take us out of Flow. I really cared about my daughter, and I cared how she would respond. She would have been OK had I not gotten the packages to her in time. Disappointed yes, but in the scheme of things, she would have understood.  But me, no, my caring what she might think or feel if I didn’t get the package to her was more important than listening to my intuition and to my own physical well-being. I didn’t want her to be disappointed, so I pushed myself when I shouldn’t have.  So increment by tiny increment, I let my wellbeing fade away, and found myself out of the State of Flow.
  6. Trying to Control Circumstances and other people will take us out of Flow. My friend and I planned some errands one day this week. I wanted to pick up some parts to repair a toilet. While we were having breakfast, we got interrupted and our day completely went upside down. So I spent the day not doing what I had planned, but I did manage to not get upset with our self-invited family who went along. The positive out of that is that my surrogate brother helped me choose the toilet parts, and then installed them in 20 minutes. Which was a huge gift to me.  It would have taken me four times as long. In quite a few ways that day, I did stay with the flow. A while back, I would have tried to take charge and herd everyone along.  That day, I drove my newer car (which gave me a little control – of at least the route where we were going).  Because I treated them respectfully, I got another benefit of having Ed show me all the attributes of televisions that I wanted to buy, and the cheapest way to get the best picture.  Sometimes Flow takes us to different places that we didn’t expect.

These are just a few of the things that took me out of flow.  There are more for sure.

But let’s remember the two things that help us move to the flow state.

      A. Have a sense of where you are going.
      B. Be Happy along the way.

Yesterday while I was writing, I ended looking at my Vision Board that I constructed in January of 2015. My vision Board gave me direction for the year. It helped me set a direction for the year and have a sense of where I wanted to go.

Today as I was trying to fix the broken links on my website, I was reminded of the long list I wrote in February about How to Be Happy Along the Way which is the last part of the blog entry. Please refer to it to find ways to regain your happiness along the way. That one blog entry is a self study course with links to other entries on the subject. Enjoy if you have the time.

We don’t really have “broken links” inside us, but I loved the metaphor that the Universe gave me to relearn. I just need to tweak and fine tune my link. My link to Source. My link to Self.

These times are wonderful workshops to tweak and fine tune – and that is the way I choose to see these times. We are being given moment by moment notice of where we are tapped in and tuned in, and where we are not.  I choose to learn the lessons.  Blessings to you and yours.

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Times are A’Changing

Thursday, December 10th, 2015

I cannot believe that 2015 just rolled right by without me writing.  I wrote in February “Some truly spectacular things have been happening for me, and yet it has been a very jerky ride. One day things are great. The next day, or moment, things are upside down again.”

I wrote further:

“These Are High Octane Times

    “Here’s what I’m thinking. We are in times when things are shifting big time. If you can stay tuned in, tapped in, turned on to life, your awareness will expand and you see multiple dimensions of possibility.
    But making this shift is a challenge. Whatever is not alive and awake comes up and grabs you and says “Wake up!” It is not fun getting those wake up calls. But the potential is phenomenal and the energy is here for us to transform exponentially. The energy will propel us forward powerfully. Of course when we hit a snag, it feels like running into a tree when we have been going 100 miles an hour.”

How true. How true. Oh my goodness, looking back on that, I feel like it was a prophecy for the rest of the year.  It has been a turbulent year for me and for everyone I know.

I have spent one heck of this year grappling with patterns inside me that are reactive, therefore severely inhibiting my aliveness.  And now we are at the end of the year and the outside world is having some challenges as well. We had the worst drought and fires during the summer, now there is flooding in Washington and Oregon. Terrorist activities are happening around the world.

My housemate was so depressed a week ago. I passed along the perspective that I learned from my daughter. When I look through the eyes of Source at these issues, my human side doesn’t understand what it sees, and makes up all kinds of stories. ‘The world is not safe, it is going to heck in a handbasket.’  The larger aspect of me does not quite understand what is happening, but knows with no doubt that joining in with these chaotic energies does not help anyone. If I go down to the despair and depression, I help no one and I hurt myself. When I can stay in a higher state of being, I can see the underbelly of humanity, but still know that there are wonderful things about humanity as well.

When I am anchored like a rock to my knowingness and my compassion, I can be OK.  I don’t have to fall into the well of reactivity that has so often captured my awareness.

When I do that, I am finding this week, that my whole perspective is vibrant and alive and wondrous.  There have been so many extraordinary things that have happened. I am so grateful to be alive. I see evidence all around my world that a swell of consciousness is expanding. We as a species are growing and shifting. I am so glad to be a part of this shift. Is it easy?  Depends on where I am.  In the smaller aspects of me, not so much, which is where I have been having to extract myself again and again all during this year.  When I am in my heart, and in my neutrality, I see things so differently, and the outside world is just shuddering into alignment of my vision and that is breathtaking.

There is much to tell you about it. I think we humans are getting more telepathic. Serendipities are happening all over the place.

I watch people change in front of my eyes and apologize. People I never in a million years would expect could change.

I see people grappling with death, aging, and or disability, with grace and wisdom, while facing their own imminent death or that of a loved one. There’s a whole movement to have a conscious, compassionate and wise  and ‘green’ death.

I see our science catching up to the new realities.  We are understanding that we are not the only species that can communicate, have empathy, compassion, caring, or have thoughts. See this Ted Talk that  is not even a day old called “What are Animals thinking and Feeling?”

When we are experiencing times such as these, I look for signs from the Universe, to let me know that there is not only hope, but real change in process.

Yes we are vulnerable. These times can be scary because it places us into our vulnerability. But guess what. It also strips off our masks, and our husks so that we can be more heartfelt and connect deeper.

I’ll close with a story. My son wanted me to read the Lord of the Rings aloud to him when he was about 8 or 9. So we curled up in bed every night for months and read as a family.  This Mom learned a profound lesson that has stood by me through many dark times in my life.

Frodo a small hobbit was tasked with returning a powerful ring into a raging volcano. He was up against what appeared to be insurmountable odds. No matter how terrifying, with the help of his friends, Frodo persevered and succeeded one step at a time through three long books.

My take away? One small person can make an immeasurable difference, so never give up, never lose hope, because reality can change in an instant. We have many people on this planet who are not giving up. They are making a difference. Each of us can too.

 

 

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