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What Change Are You Truly Hungry For?

Monday, February 11th, 2019

A dear friend got very intrigued about opening a frozen yogurt shop in her small town. She did the research, got her husband on board, looked for locations, and choked just before she made the complete investment in this new business, and turned to her tried and true connection, her animal friends. Her husband dreams of being a semi-truck driver because he wants the freedom from supporting the family financially. He wants to get on the road and travel. Be away from bosses, and work obligations. Neither has reached the point where they are so hungry for happiness and success that they have found a way to change.

Two of my neighbors really want to be svelte and gorgeous. They struggle with their weight and their diet. One neighbor has been in a relationship that has been on again, off again during the whole time I known her. She describes that relationship as both very supportive and very abusive. She too threw herself into the relationship with her wonderful dog, until that dog passed away. Her new dog has challenged her to the max.

My son broke up with his girlfriend in December, and she immediately started dating a male friend with whom she had been dancing in a play. In January, he got laid off by the tech company in which he had invested 60 – 80 hours weeks. He was so tired and discouraged that he needed nine months to recover physically, before he could look for a new job and a new relationship. During that time, he was able to get clear. He wanted to move from the very small town in Vermont, be in a larger place where he would have opportunities to meet new friends and new work opportunities and not see his ex-girlfriends every time he went downtown.

He was exceedingly hungry for change. It came out of the adversity of his life. It made him hungry for happiness. Hungry for a different kind of success.

It took time. He took the time to focus on his food, and lose weight. He began to change his image. Imagine a 30-something male taking time to develop a hairstyle, skin regimens, and go through his wardrobe to really look his best. It was so fun to watch. And grueling for him. There was no guarantee any of it would pay off during his nine-months of not knowing what he would do next.

He now lives in Manhattan, across the street from where he works, on a less trafficked street where there is not as much noise. That’s important because he is a one of those people who has sleep issues. He’s got a job that he got easily. It came out of his hunger for change, and taking inspired actions. His hunger for success that wouldn’t hurt him and his body propelled him into living in a new way, and it has been amazing to watch.

I too am very hungry for change. I got very sick during the last five months. Lost my autonomy. My daughter had to come live with me, drive me everywhere, do grocery shopping, cook for me, do my laundry. And that is hard on our relationship. It scared me deeply. My huge hunger for my autonomy has propelled me to take longer and longer walks to build up my strength, and climb stairs. It has made me hungry to fix my own meals in the morning, which might be gluten free toast and eggs. It has made me hungry to really change my life core deep pattern that I have been carrying.

I was reading my September journal recently, and was blown away to see an entry where I was just so angry with so many things, and my guidance (to whom I was writing) said “well, you may just need to really experience being a victim, to really get this.” What?

My coach who has been working with me to help overcome life-long patterns and beliefs helped me identify that my core life pattern has been based on being a victim to circumstances, especially circumstances that I was born into. Circumstances that create survival and contracting. In January, my coach was asking me a really hard question. “Why are you not being able to drop this victim identification? You have cleaned up so many patterns, what is it that is still stuck?”

Grappling with that question really helped me understand how I got into this current health situation. I am a super-sensitive person. That gives me some wonderful strengths. It also makes me vulnerable to what other people think of me. Because of this I have had some really challenging times doing what is in my own best interests, and instead try to do what is expected of me. Here where I live, and with my pet-sitting clients that became particularly hard in October, when a client wanted to leave her brain-damaged husband in my care. I was able to state my concerns, but she left without getting them resolved. The result was that I needed to intervene with his family and then I got ill as a result. I was supersensitive, tried to be too nice, and didn’t take care of myself. So I created a circumstance where I got to live out once again being a victim to circumstance and learned the huge consequence to my health.

Now; from a much bigger (dragon’s eye view) perspective; I see that I got myself into a situation where I really became hungry enough to burst out of this major life identification, and I chose to get ill so that I could build the hunger deep enough to propel me past the blocks, past the reluctance to change that status quo, past all the gobbledygook that my small self throws out, and past all the resistance that would come up when I tried to change this core life issue.

Simultaneously that Universe gave me the opportunity to understand better how I got into this life-long pattern of being on the Victim, Perpetrator, Rescuer platform, where most of humanity hangs out. And how this Highly Sensitive Person Syndrome (surviving when the world overwhelms you) and my Active Alert Temperament are all related and have set up my body for this autoimmune condition I have been experiencing once again. I wrote a blog entry in 2016 called Resolve where I publicly resolve to change this core pattern and look at these temperament characteristics. That was just as I was beginning work with my coach. Finding that blog entry is another sign. Looking for Signs from the Universe is so important. Thank heavens I can finally have some larger perspective.

Because I was so hungry and driven to be able to answer my coach’s questions, I serendipitously ran across the book “The Deepest Well: Healing The Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity.” I needed to understand why I was having so much trouble. I like knowing. That birthed my last Post called Success and Acute Childhood Adversity.”

Knowing this research about Acute Childhood Trauma is a huge missing piece about the human condition and about my human and body condition. In the reviews on Amazon, there were a number of people who couldn’t read or listen to the book because the research did not make them hopeful, nor was there a lot of practical guidance about coping. But in the one of the five star reviews, writer and counselor Lucille Zimmerman who has done her own five years of research with this group wrote “Trauma can be the springboard that catapults people into higher and better ways of functioning than before. In spite of the pain and suffering, the trauma actually ends up giving some people an advantage in life.”

It actually can give you the huge hunger to change your life. When you are hungry to change, you can go past the barriers of self-doubt, and old ways of seeing and believing. It can give you the huge motivation to go beyond your deepest resistance.

It took me three years to get hungry enough to change my diet in a major way. I dropped sugar and alcohol, and other inflammation producing foods like dairy. And it has been pretty easy to stay on that plan, because the hunger for health and wellness was way bigger than the value of what I would get by having a piece of strawberry shortcake.

What is it that you are really hungry for? Hunger gives you a Burning Desire. Hunger gives you a Burning Goal. Your own largest self is calling you. It’s telling you what you are ready to do next. Looking for success for most of us is really looking for ways to be happy, and ways to step into our strengths and our best and largest ways of contributing. I am here to tell you that your own guidance and intuition is always there supporting you to find your way into your larger growth.

Sometimes we can’t hear the message, because our vision of ourselves has shrunk. And that might be a reason to reach out to someone like a coach who can hold the larger vision of you, help you see the bigger picture, and help you translate your hunger into an inspired action plan. We’ll talk about that in an upcoming blog. For today, you can ask the question of yourself, what is it that I am really hungry for?

Am I hungry for hope, am I hungry for the job of my dreams, and am I hungry for connection to deal with this immense loneliness that I feel inside? Am I hungry to have financial success because I am drowning in debt? Am I hungry to have the freedom to live my life the way I want, and it’s hard to be a parent, or have a partner or a family that I am having to support? Am I hungry to be healthy because I have chronic conditions like diabetes, asthma, chronic fatigue syndrome, heart conditions or something that is really debilitating my ability to enjoy my life? Am I hungry to express my creativity through art, painting, singing, sculpture, dancing, pottery, or some other way such as writing?

We are in times of change. Our hunger can tell us the direction of the change we are moving in. It can give us the powerful intention and motivation to change and be a success.

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A Success Story by a Reader of Law of Success

Sunday, March 24th, 2013

A Success Story by a reader of this Law of Success Blog grabbed my attention. It is such a powerful story that I asked permission to share it with you dear reader. This is what the reader wrote:

“I’ve found the recommendations and helpful information on your site to be life transforming the last 12 months. I am so grateful for the guidelines you have shared—they’ve been literally life saving for me and for my family.

“I’ve put the tools to use in many situations and let me just tell you―they work every time!

“There has been a particularly important situation that has come to completion today and I’d like to share the positive impact your ideas have had on this significant situation:

“My father contracted a simple flu last February that blossomed into much more serious problems quite quickly. The flu caused him to become terribly dehydrated and to develop a bowel obstruction. Being the type of person that avoids hospitals he let things progress until we had to visit the emergency room. During this time and throughout the past several months I’d been studying the guidelines and ideas you share on your site as well as gathering similar information from other sources. It was a good thing because I was about to need the tools more than I’ve ever needed many things in my life before.

“Unfortunately, the efforts the hospital deployed to remedy the dehydration and flu issues my father faced caused him to aspirate and go into cardiac arrest. This happened later in the evening on the day we took him into the emergency room. After his cardiac arrest, the team in ICU was able to save him and get his heart started again through CPR (sadly CPR often results in broken ribs, in this situation there were 9 broken ribs, but it really didn’t matter because he was alive).

“Even more unfortunately, he was alone at the hospital when all of this occurred. I, and the rest of the family members staying together at my Moms house, received a call from the hospital with the news. We were all immediately quite shocked and devastated.

“Quickly we got our things together (it was the middle of the night) and started getting to the hospital to handle the newly escalated situation. We arrived at the hospital to find him on life support. “Life-support PLUS,” actually, was what the doctors were calling it. I was so devastated to have just forced him to go the hospital earlier in the day, and now I was standing over his bed watching him fight for his life.

“So, I bet I know what you are thinking. And, yes it was what I was thinking to: it is time for some seriously positive expectations to get to work! I just started focusing in the positive results that could come from everything he faced. First, I signed the papers to have a cardiologist check his heart to “see if he was strong enough to survive all of the treatments they wanted to give him to help him recover from the shock of going into cardiac arrest” (as it turns out when these things happen the body goes into shock and shock is terribly disruptive on the chemicals in our system). Of course I signed the papers and got to work with my positive thinking. Despite others in the room going strongly against my positive expectations, I kept them up and I told them to my unconscious father and any medical professional in the room that would listen. They were overly precautious and warned me with every verbalized positive thought that he was a very sick man and was “not out of the woods” (“the deep dark woods of death” I later realized). None-the-less I kept it up. I kept it up through CT scans, cardiac checks, lung checks, chemical balance checks, painful treatments. Everything. And, guess what? It worked! The doctors quickly started calling him “Mr. Do exactly what we ask of him” and the positive test results kept coming in. The one setback we experienced was that they took him off of his respirator too early and he had to go back on life support for several more days to allow his lungs to clear. That was tough, but we got through it knowing our positive intentions would see us through.

“Through it all I was sharing these philosophies with family members who were equally worried. I would tell them to picture him at home getting dressed, putting on his boots, and walking out the door to do his daily tasks that he so loved to stay on top of. They struggled to conjure up the images and needed regular reminders to focus on the positive outcomes that could occur. But together we were all able to neglect our fears and foster our focus on positive outcomes. And, it continued to work.

“But then we hit a roadblock, in one of the chest x-rays they took a few days before taking him off of breathing support the second time they found a spot on his lung. When two of us were told of the spot the doctors were completely focused on lung cancer. Currently dealing with a “life-support plus challenge,” we quickly started to think of other causes for the x-ray results. This somewhat angered the doctor sharing the news with us and we were quickly reminded that they considered it to be lung cancer in their best estimate. I agreed that we would follow-up on this issue quickly after dealing with the current set of circumstances but reminded the team of doctors that I would stay on my path of positive expectations despite their early concern that he had lung cancer. They seemed quite frustrated with me as they left the room.

“I told the other family member that I wanted to keep this quiet until we could get him back on his feet and tell him personally first. We asked the doctors and nurses to keep a lid on the issue and with our commitment to follow-up on the issue soon they all complied. After several more weeks in the hospital and two weeks in a rehab center he was back on his feet again and feeling better (ribs heal quite quickly I was surprised to learn).

“So, with the bowel obstruction and cardiac arrest situation behind us, we went off to face the music on the lung issue that was found. My father, being very impressionable while under sedation, was 100% in on the positive expectation program naturally. While I think he worried things could go bad, he agreed to also think positive and not focus heavily on how things could turn out negatively. He got several tests done over the last 9 months, including a biopsy that did not detect cancer, and we just got him home from a hospital stay where they removed two spots and sent them in for deep analysis.

“Well, the biopsy results came back today and it is not cancer! I am so happy to have had the positive expectations tools at my disposal from the time that first call came from the hospital in the middle of the night, to the conversation we had with the doctors when they found the spots on his x-ray, to this last week when we went through serious surgery to deal with the spots.

“He came home today but before he could be released he met with the doctors who told him the good news. Despite all of their constant talk about lung cancer since last February, the positive expectations I and my family held onto and focused on so strongly came true. He’s fine. And he’ll continue to be fine.

“Honestly, I would hate to think of what we would have gone through if we did not deploy your positive thinking tools. It could have been the worst year of my life but instead it was a very tough year where I learned one of the most important skills I’ll ever develop this lifetime: the power of positive expectations and of positive thinking. I’m an evangelist. I tell everyone I can about it all the time. And, it is starting to spread. In fact, my Mom and I did a 17-second exercise with a friend before the holidays and the results we expected came streaming into her life just like they have come to us. Now she’s an evangelist too and appears to me to have a different view of life.

“So, thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you! I sincerely want to extend my gratitude and share the real-world impact and results of your work.”

Thank you dear friend for sharing this story with us.
I would love to hear your success story. Please send it to me in the form below.
May your life be blessed with success, prosperity, peace, and plenty.

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Success Stories

Thursday, June 30th, 2011

Success Stories

Success stories of others inspire us on to our own success. We need to know that others have created success stories of their own. Success stories teach us about some of the success factors that are integral to everyone’s success stories. Many of us do not have the ability to imagine ourselves in our own success stories, because we think we are too old, too young, too poor, uneducated, too many difficult circumstances, or some other reason. When we read others’ success stories, it helps us to believe in the possibility of our own success and the creation of our own success stories.

Some of the success stories that follow are about people who had their own adversities to overcome to become success stories. They did overcome them. You can too.

Col. Harlan Sanders retired and received his first social security check when he was 65. That check was $90.00. He looked at that check and said “I am not going to live like this.” He decided to start a restaurant chain based on his wife’s recipe for frying chicken. No matter what age you are, if he can start a restaurant at 65, you can create your own success story. KFC’s success stories let us know that age is not a factor. Mrs. Field’s Cookies – another powerful success story – was created by a young woman who was only 20 years old. These are wonderful success stories that say age need not be an adverse factor. Persistence and motivation are keys in these success stories.

Bankruptcy hasn’t stopped success. Walt Disney and Sam Walton’s success stories show that both experienced bankruptcy. Walt Disney went around showing his drawings of a mouse to potential investors, bankers, and friends and went bankrupt while he was doing it. But he persisted, and eventually Disneyland and the Walt Disney Corporation came to existence. Sam Walton was also a dreamer whose dream of a national chain of variety stores propelled him his whole life. His first store went bankrupt. His second store went bankrupt. He persisted, and today Wal-Mart is one of the world‘s biggest stores.
Walt Disney and Sam Walton demonstrate with their success stories, that you can overcome bad credit and financial failure and still make your dream come true. Dreams are key success factors in these success stories.

A 33-year old truck driver named Larry Walters wanted to fly, but had no education or money. Determination is key success factor to the next two success stories. Grabbing a pellet gun, and a six pack of beer, he tied 42 weather balloons to his lawn chair and began to rise into the air. His neighbors watched him rise to 16,000 feet in the air. When he was ready, he shot out one balloon at a time and slowly descended to a safe landing. Rose Blumkin was Russian born and came to the US in 1917. She went on to work very hard and owned and operated a $180 million carpet company. When she was 90 she sold her company to her family in a contract to allow her to stay on and help run the business. She had a disagreement with her grandson, and quit to start another carpet business. I never signed a non-compete agreement she said as she walked out the door. Five years later she celebrated her 100th birthday, running around in a wheelchair, operating her $5 million carpet business. These unusual success stories tell us that you can do it too. Gumption and belief in one’s self are keys in these success stories. Please visit our Success Story page for more success stories illustrating success factors by clicking here.

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