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Receptively Tuning In

Tuesday, November 28th, 2017

My intention is to have more inner stability so that I am at peace and happy no matter what is happening with my health, with my life, with my finances, with my housing, with politics, with the community where I live; no matter what is happening in my outside or inside world.

While I was ill for so long, I began feeling at the mercy of my illness (a victim mentality). When I got depressed as I watched the national and global scene this year, I felt at the mercy of current events. When I got mad at what was happening in the community where I lived, I wanted to rant and scold, and make others bad or wrong (perpetrator mentality). When I got afraid for my daughter as her life changed, I wanted to help (invoking my seeing of her as a victim, and me as a rescuer).  None of these stances; victim, perpetrator, rescuer; come from a centered, empowered place.  So we all have these perspectives inside us.  We have grown up in cultures that evoke that of us.  But today’s topic is not about the victim, perpetrator rescuer or drama triangle, it is about trying to get off that platform, and in tune with our largest vision.

One last thought about the drama or victim triangle, is that we go there when we are afraid or have some deep anxiety.  It is often the way we experience our power (either under or over someone else, or by feeling like we know more than someone else so can help them – yuck).

So one way off that triangle is to feel our own internal power.  Another way is to feel at peace and free of fear.  Being happy is a very wonderful way to stay off the triangle.

Curiously, success – which so many of us reach for, is our way of trying to be happy.  We think “if I can just have lots of success, lots of money, good relationships, security, I will be happy.

In the Abraham Hicks work, if you are happy, you set up internal conditions, you set up alignment with Source so that you feel happy, and what you have desire for is much more likely to flow to you.  That too is beyond today’s entry, but it is basic to my approach.

I want to be happy. I don’t want to worry about the future, the present, and I want to look with anticipation to the continuation of this adventure of life.

So my continuing question these days is “how do I stay happy”?  One of my ways (there are many), is to attune to and align with the Life Force that flows through me.   You could call it the Source that flows through me.   To do that, I need to be receptive.

Now I have a very active and sometimes wild mind. It does not like being quiet.  So I have developed a number of ways to deal with the mind of mine that likes to take an image, or an event, chew it to death, and show me how awful the world is.  Nope.  That is not conducive to being happy.

Most meditation is for the purpose of doing one thing:  Quietening the mind.  So I have to outsmart it.  The news here is that I have done it enough, so that I have confidence, and I know how to adjust my focus.  As you learn, you just have to practice, not judge yourself, and note what works, gently leading self back to the state you are reaching for. The state I am looking for is the flow and being happy. One of the two ingredients for being in Flow is to be happy.

Here’s one practice I do that really helps.  I want to be in the flow. I go outside as early in the day as I can, usually with a cup of hot tea. I sit down in a place where I am very unlikely to be interrupted, and I look and watch. For a while nothing happens.  I take a breath and allow myself to relax a bit more. I observe. I listen.  I hear noises, the train, traffic, and after a while, I might begin to hear bird sounds.  That takes a while, because if I step out onto the deck, in the back, it takes a while for any activity to happen.

As I look at the sky and the trees, and the grass, I find something that I appreciate about this particular day.  Today, it was raining, So I was appreciative for the overhang over the deck. I appreciated the warmth of my two coats, and that the weather was warm enough that I could stay outside today.  I love the cup I use for my tea, and I savor the warmth of holding the cup in my hand.  These are very simple things.  Yesterday, even though it was grey, it was not raining, so I appreciated the rain-free day.

As I appreciate where I am, my focus is on this moment, not on anything about what I am going to do for the day, It is just bringing attention to this moment.  When I find something to appreciate, I almost smile.  That feels good. I try to smile, and that feels even better.

Nature is very soothing to me.  Green is beautiful. I look at the evergreen trees, and the structure of the trees that have lost all their leaves.  Looking at their shape pleases me.  And I smile a little.  And I take a deep breath and relax some more.  I notice that my focus goes just a little diffuse. I am sitting very still.  I am waiting for what I have discovered next.

I notice that as I continue to relax, and stay watching what is happening at this very moment, and feeling the very small pleasures of my body in this moment, I get even quieter, and I go deeper and more relaxed.  I am looking for nothing (yet), but simple seeing what the world has to show me today – which more likely is some kind of animal life.

The more still I am, the more relaxed I am, the better I am feeling. I smile. I wait.  I know that most likely I will see birds.  But they are needing to know I am safe and not a threat. They don’t show up for a while.

As I navigate this time of being outside, I know it is a sacred time, and I don’t usually get impatient. The waiting is part of stilling the mind.  My eyes are active.  I think that is my secret. Observing, my focus is not on what I am thinking, but what I am seeing.  I am comfortable for the most part, I get happy the longer I sit there, and I know that eventually I will see some kind of animal, and then I will feel delight.  They have begun to show me their world, and its a delight.

Today, before I saw any birds, I wondered “What do birds do while it is raining?”  That was the most thought I had, and almost at that moment, a small bird flew into the leafless tree in front of me, landed, and then started shaking off its wings.  I smiled, and savored seeing the bird and what it was doing.  Then I saw more birds, and it was lovely to watch what they were doing.  Soon I began to hear bird calls, and the bird I was watching responded to the call of another bird.  Watching Life in the form of a little bird is intoxicating.

Now, I am no longer aware of how cold it is, or my wet clothes from sitting down on a damp chair, I am captivated by the delight of what I am watching.

While I watch the birds, I am not thinking of anything but the joy of watching them, and I sink deeper into the experience and savor it.

Every day it is different. Yesterday I saw a squirrel working on building a nest, and watched him traverse his highway through the trees.

My heart opens, my mind is quiet, my body is quiet, and I soak up the stillness and the privilege of being alive.

I am more tuned into my own Beingness.

I have created a container in myself of joy and attunement.  I go into my life for the day. I hold bliss to my heart.

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Resolve

Monday, September 19th, 2016

This has been a year of strong transitional movement. I know a lot of people who are challenged. As these waves of energy cascade, I have had strong reactions and sometimes felt at the mercy of forces beyond my control. Yet there are huge signs of transformation.

The Kiln

This has been a wild year, painful and intense, deeply fatiguing, and finally freeing. I have been terrified that 3 people I hold dear would die. And my sweet 33 year old Melissa did die. The brother to whom I am closest in age has had a heart that has been in flutter for over 16 months. He came to visit in June, and I was grateful to see him one more time.

My own health has been compromised as my two autoimmune disorders have flared and I can’t get them settled down.

Out of all the heat in the kiln of life, I find myself resolving to find a yet new way to live. While I have been saying that my health has been a top priority this last year, my actions have been to keep pushing me just a little further, to keep keeping on because I said I would do it, or I felt compelled to get that task done. I wasn’t always the driver of my own bus (one of my inner family or emotions was- click for more info). Sometimes impatience, and a need to get something accomplished drove my bus, not my more wise patient, compassionate self.

Have you noticed there are lots of people who are being challenged? When in a time where we have no control of the outside forces we can feel hopeless. Not so in charge of my inside forces these past months, it has been a time for me to stop.

The Fire

A sequence of circumstances brought me to a standstill. It took first intense anger to propel me to an inner place where I could allow the intense anger to morph into resolve. I was preparing for a colonoscopy (which I have done many times). They are not pleasant, but I had my tried and true method to get through the preparation. This time it didn’t work. This time my body had a violent reaction to the 12 hours forced cleansing. As I began recovering, I hit pure fury at the inhumane process.

But it turns out that what was inhumane, was my continual pushing my body to perform physical tasks far beyond its capability. So the fury I felt at the medical profession was a mirror to the fury that my body felt to being forced to be a slave to my will. In my imagination, my body was acting like a dog on a leash that finally laid down and would not walk any further because it had no more energy to give.

So no matter my outside commitments or my desires to do those things, I have had to stop.

Immediate Feedback

My body has such a state of depletion that it cannot restore itself. So it is giving me signals. If this doesn’t work for me, then I bleed. If I eat the wrong food, I bleed. If I get stressed, I bleed, if I get over-tired, I bleed. In real time, within the hour, my body gives me red feedback.

When I am this depleted, I am not really giving to others, when I do something that I said I would do. I don’t have the cushion of finess when I talk. I have been at a number of committee meeting, and as I would say my truth, it shaved off their skin as my words whistled by because what I saw and said was delivered with such intensity. That’s not a give to anyone.

So I am having to say no sometimes to things I think would give to me. I had to say no to going to a 4 day training that was two states away. Too much travel and too intense a schedule, my body could not do it. Last night at the last minute, I chose not to go to Chorus practice (I love singing) because I was too tired. When I signed up for chorus this season, I told myself I would just go when I felt really good, and wouldn’t go when I don’t, and if that means I don’t sing in the final concerts, then that’s what it means.

Phoenix Rising

But there is real transformation at work in this time for me. Because I am forced with instant feedback to see what helps and what does not help, I am able to make life changing choices.

I resolved changing the things I can. I resolve to eat on an Autoimmune Food Protocol. Some people put their diseases into remission and even heal themselves. I have the will power and the resolution to stay on that plan.

Eliminating stress is another thing I can change. How? I’m taking a sabbatical from things that create stress for me. I’m re-reading a book called “How We Choose to Be Happy – The 9 choices of Extremely Happy People-their secrets, their stories.” This is a way that “truly happy people make conscious decisions about how they will confront life’s challenges. In the face of sometimes overwhelming circumstances, they create happiness by making the same nine internally driven choices.”

Summary

So I have told you about my horrible, no good awful year 🙂 (like Alexander’s No good, horrible awful day – a delightful children’s book).

I’ve told you a basic response that came out of the pain, fatigue, and feeling powerlessness.

Fury came. Fury delivered the emotional energy that I could morph into resolve.

With it the decision arrived that I will be victim no more.

And a resolve so bone deep that it seared out all the hopelessness and despair and left complete resolve that I will live my life differently no matter what the circumstances. Now that is resolution I want you to know. And although my diseases are still active, I am happy. Bone Deep happy. And I intend to stay that way no matter what.

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Transformation (includes The Gifts of Adversity)

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Times are A’Changing

Thursday, December 10th, 2015

I cannot believe that 2015 just rolled right by without me writing.  I wrote in February “Some truly spectacular things have been happening for me, and yet it has been a very jerky ride. One day things are great. The next day, or moment, things are upside down again.”

I wrote further:

“These Are High Octane Times

    “Here’s what I’m thinking. We are in times when things are shifting big time. If you can stay tuned in, tapped in, turned on to life, your awareness will expand and you see multiple dimensions of possibility.
    But making this shift is a challenge. Whatever is not alive and awake comes up and grabs you and says “Wake up!” It is not fun getting those wake up calls. But the potential is phenomenal and the energy is here for us to transform exponentially. The energy will propel us forward powerfully. Of course when we hit a snag, it feels like running into a tree when we have been going 100 miles an hour.”

How true. How true. Oh my goodness, looking back on that, I feel like it was a prophecy for the rest of the year.  It has been a turbulent year for me and for everyone I know.

I have spent one heck of this year grappling with patterns inside me that are reactive, therefore severely inhibiting my aliveness.  And now we are at the end of the year and the outside world is having some challenges as well. We had the worst drought and fires during the summer, now there is flooding in Washington and Oregon. Terrorist activities are happening around the world.

My housemate was so depressed a week ago. I passed along the perspective that I learned from my daughter. When I look through the eyes of Source at these issues, my human side doesn’t understand what it sees, and makes up all kinds of stories. ‘The world is not safe, it is going to heck in a handbasket.’  The larger aspect of me does not quite understand what is happening, but knows with no doubt that joining in with these chaotic energies does not help anyone. If I go down to the despair and depression, I help no one and I hurt myself. When I can stay in a higher state of being, I can see the underbelly of humanity, but still know that there are wonderful things about humanity as well.

When I am anchored like a rock to my knowingness and my compassion, I can be OK.  I don’t have to fall into the well of reactivity that has so often captured my awareness.

When I do that, I am finding this week, that my whole perspective is vibrant and alive and wondrous.  There have been so many extraordinary things that have happened. I am so grateful to be alive. I see evidence all around my world that a swell of consciousness is expanding. We as a species are growing and shifting. I am so glad to be a part of this shift. Is it easy?  Depends on where I am.  In the smaller aspects of me, not so much, which is where I have been having to extract myself again and again all during this year.  When I am in my heart, and in my neutrality, I see things so differently, and the outside world is just shuddering into alignment of my vision and that is breathtaking.

There is much to tell you about it. I think we humans are getting more telepathic. Serendipities are happening all over the place.

I watch people change in front of my eyes and apologize. People I never in a million years would expect could change.

I see people grappling with death, aging, and or disability, with grace and wisdom, while facing their own imminent death or that of a loved one. There’s a whole movement to have a conscious, compassionate and wise  and ‘green’ death.

I see our science catching up to the new realities.  We are understanding that we are not the only species that can communicate, have empathy, compassion, caring, or have thoughts. See this Ted Talk that  is not even a day old called “What are Animals thinking and Feeling?”

When we are experiencing times such as these, I look for signs from the Universe, to let me know that there is not only hope, but real change in process.

Yes we are vulnerable. These times can be scary because it places us into our vulnerability. But guess what. It also strips off our masks, and our husks so that we can be more heartfelt and connect deeper.

I’ll close with a story. My son wanted me to read the Lord of the Rings aloud to him when he was about 8 or 9. So we curled up in bed every night for months and read as a family.  This Mom learned a profound lesson that has stood by me through many dark times in my life.

Frodo a small hobbit was tasked with returning a powerful ring into a raging volcano. He was up against what appeared to be insurmountable odds. No matter how terrifying, with the help of his friends, Frodo persevered and succeeded one step at a time through three long books.

My take away? One small person can make an immeasurable difference, so never give up, never lose hope, because reality can change in an instant. We have many people on this planet who are not giving up. They are making a difference. Each of us can too.

 

 

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Life Flame and Law of Success

Wednesday, February 04th, 2009


Life force
, your eternal flame and the Law of Success are deeply connected. Within each of us burns a flame, an internal fire. We are the custodians of that flame. The choices we make in our lives either add to or dampen the life force we have been given.

When we have a roaring fire within, we feel confident, strong and courageous. We are inspired with visions and we have what it takes to go after our dreams. We can be focused, see with clarity, speak truthfully, yet have humility. We easily flow with the Law of Success

When we neglect our internal flame, it sputters, we feel scared, we worry, and feel self-doubt. We doubt that we have anything to give to the world. We look to the outside to find things to make us feel better. Our internal fire feels tired and starved. We want other people to “feed our fires.” We are at odds with the Law of Success.

Life is a pure flame and we live by an invisible sun within us.
-Thomas Broune

“Our flames are our essence. When they are well fed, they hold all the power of that roaring fire. But our internal flames must be looked after and protected. We must honor them and care for them, tend them and nourish them, if they are to stay strong. Our job is to protect these flames, knowing that they are our life force, our spirit, and the keeper of our divinity,” says Debby Ford in The Right Questions. When we stoke our inner fire, we coordinate with the Law of Success.

What if our only job in life is to keep this inner fire vital and robust? Our life fire warms and enhances the life of those around us. We enjoy warming ourselves around the life fire of our friends and loved ones. We enjoy basking in the warmth of our own internal fire when it burns briskly. The Law of Success depends upon the life force in each of us, and in each particle of the Universe to resonate. Stoke your internal fire and take very good care of that flame, and Law of Success will give you all the love, money, healthy, fulfillment that you desire.

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