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Victim No More

Monday, October 10th, 2016

With it the decision arrived that I will be victim no more.

“And a resolve so bone deep that it seared out all the hopelessness and despair and left complete resolve that I will live my life differently no matter what the circumstances. Now that is resolution I want you to know. And although my diseases are still active, I am happy. Bone Deep happy. And I intend to stay that way no matter what.”

That’s how my last post ended. I wrote it Sept 16, 2016. Resolve is a powerful thing. Its going to take a book to write about how I arrived at that place of resolve. But I want to share it with you. It is so important.

My food plan is going great. Rarely am I really tempted to eat something off my plan. It’s called the AutoImmune Protocol. Very interesting and great. I am eating good meat and seafood, cooked vegetables, and fruit. Anything else is no go: no dairy, no nuts, no grains, no eggs, no nightshade (like tomatoes and potatoes). Here’s what’s happening. My lung and sinus symptoms are a bit better. My colitis – just barely some incremental improvement. But I am have so much more energy I am blown away. My memory has improved significantly, very little fatigue, very little pain, and I plan to go a few more months on this plan until my body has reset it self. My goal was to reduce inflammation in my body.

I had just started on this new food plan, when I had that horrible awful no good day out of which was born this bone deep resolve. The resolve is carrying me through wild times. I have been on six pet sitting gigs, which means I have moved six times since I last wrote. And I have to carry my new foodstuffs around with me. Arrowroot powder, carob powder, olive oil, coconut oil are some things I move because I need to cook all my food. Eating out could mean I might eat something not on my plan (like sugar)!

Now I have not been a cooking person. And I’m learning to love cooking for myself. I love finding the challenge of how to have a pizza when you can’t have any of the traditional flours. It’s possible. Just look online for AIP pizza and there’s someone who has found a recipe. So I have had lots of challenges with my time, and I am staying true to my resolve.

My intuition is kicking in big-time. I decided to write a book about this journey. I have a lot of skills that are valuable, and knowledge from walking in these shoes. “Coping with autoimmune disease”s is my working title. As I have gotten excited about writing, I had this incredible thought, what if autoimmune diseases are related to people who are highly sensitive? Guess what. There’s a big correlation!!!!!!!!!!

So off I jaunted in my research, and got one of the biggest epiphanies of my adult life. Part of what Elaine Afron talks about in The Highly Sensitive Person is the arousal of the nervous systems of people who have this temperament. I have always been told “You are too much.” “You are too ‘big’ in your energy.” You laugh too loud, you cry too loud, why can’t you be steady as a rock like most people. When you come into the office, its like a whirlwind happens. You really impact people too much with who you are. Calm down, be normal, be quiet, be thoughtful.” And more of those kinds of gems (roll of the eyes). And this was never about my behavior, this was always about the personhood of me. (so it felt).

When I was working on my master’s degree in human development, I specifically targeted a population that I wanted to work with. I wanted to work with Adults who have the same temperament as I do. Back then I was studying with Linda Budd Ph.d who wrote “Living with the Active Alert Child.” These are some of the coolest people in the world (as are the highly sensitive people), but they also have some big challenges. Think Bill Clinton, Jane Fonda, and you can kind of get a feeling for what they might be like.

So both the Active Alerts and the Highly Sensitive People receive enormous amount of negative feedback both because of their behavior, and their being-ness. Each temperament claims about 20% of the population, and it will be fascinating to see if they are subsets of each other.

When I studied Active Alerts, I knew that I could get really challenged by being in groups, because I didn’t have some of the screens that lots of people do to screen out incoming stimuli. What happens when all that stimuli gets in, it just floods the body, setting the body into alert status. The world does not feel safe. Cortisol floods the system as does adrenalin, and away we go. I just had not put it together that the arousal of my everyday life was creating nervous system overload. What I called earlier – arousal. Big thing to find out.

So of course you can guess what happened, when I got this epiphany and all the excitement of seeing my whole life and my life’s work beginning to emerge. I hit overload and overwhelm. Typical of overloaded arousal. This, I am sure, is what wears down people’s immune system.

After a weekend of being in the overload soup, I remembered!!!! Once again I am feeling victimized by my own nervous system. What crap!  Literally (laughing out loud – with colitis – well that’s more information that you need on this blog).

As soon as I recognized that, I immediately calmed down and began remembering all kinds of techniques I can use to calm my system and myself down.

So I have learned an enormous amount about me, my relationship with my body has changed, and finally I see a way to find a population who wants my work and needs it desperately, and who I understand very well, so I feel I am finally moving into my own, and my own’ life purpose.  Part of it is to heal myself. Part of it is to show others that it is possible.  I have created a Facebook Group where you can chat with me called “Success Factors.” Please drop by and chat. And like this page please. We are in wonderful times of change. Let’s do it.

I will be victim no more. That’s a resolution. Wherever I feel like a victim, it shows up, and now my illness points me directly to it.

So now my illness has become my best ally. And I have no doubt and all confidence that this new path will take me to success beyond my wildest dream.

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Resolve

Monday, September 19th, 2016

This has been a year of strong transitional movement. I know a lot of people who are challenged. As these waves of energy cascade, I have had strong reactions and sometimes felt at the mercy of forces beyond my control. Yet there are huge signs of transformation.

The Kiln

This has been a wild year, painful and intense, deeply fatiguing, and finally freeing. I have been terrified that 3 people I hold dear would die. And my sweet 33 year old Melissa did die. The brother to whom I am closest in age has had a heart that has been in flutter for over 16 months. He came to visit in June, and I was grateful to see him one more time.

My own health has been compromised as my two autoimmune disorders have flared and I can’t get them settled down.

Out of all the heat in the kiln of life, I find myself resolving to find a yet new way to live. While I have been saying that my health has been a top priority this last year, my actions have been to keep pushing me just a little further, to keep keeping on because I said I would do it, or I felt compelled to get that task done. I wasn’t always the driver of my own bus (one of my inner family or emotions was- click for more info). Sometimes impatience, and a need to get something accomplished drove my bus, not my more wise patient, compassionate self.

Have you noticed there are lots of people who are being challenged? When in a time where we have no control of the outside forces we can feel hopeless. Not so in charge of my inside forces these past months, it has been a time for me to stop.

The Fire

A sequence of circumstances brought me to a standstill. It took first intense anger to propel me to an inner place where I could allow the intense anger to morph into resolve. I was preparing for a colonoscopy (which I have done many times). They are not pleasant, but I had my tried and true method to get through the preparation. This time it didn’t work. This time my body had a violent reaction to the 12 hours forced cleansing. As I began recovering, I hit pure fury at the inhumane process.

But it turns out that what was inhumane, was my continual pushing my body to perform physical tasks far beyond its capability. So the fury I felt at the medical profession was a mirror to the fury that my body felt to being forced to be a slave to my will. In my imagination, my body was acting like a dog on a leash that finally laid down and would not walk any further because it had no more energy to give.

So no matter my outside commitments or my desires to do those things, I have had to stop.

Immediate Feedback

My body has such a state of depletion that it cannot restore itself. So it is giving me signals. If this doesn’t work for me, then I bleed. If I eat the wrong food, I bleed. If I get stressed, I bleed, if I get over-tired, I bleed. In real time, within the hour, my body gives me red feedback.

When I am this depleted, I am not really giving to others, when I do something that I said I would do. I don’t have the cushion of finess when I talk. I have been at a number of committee meeting, and as I would say my truth, it shaved off their skin as my words whistled by because what I saw and said was delivered with such intensity. That’s not a give to anyone.

So I am having to say no sometimes to things I think would give to me. I had to say no to going to a 4 day training that was two states away. Too much travel and too intense a schedule, my body could not do it. Last night at the last minute, I chose not to go to Chorus practice (I love singing) because I was too tired. When I signed up for chorus this season, I told myself I would just go when I felt really good, and wouldn’t go when I don’t, and if that means I don’t sing in the final concerts, then that’s what it means.

Phoenix Rising

But there is real transformation at work in this time for me. Because I am forced with instant feedback to see what helps and what does not help, I am able to make life changing choices.

I resolved changing the things I can. I resolve to eat on an Autoimmune Food Protocol. Some people put their diseases into remission and even heal themselves. I have the will power and the resolution to stay on that plan.

Eliminating stress is another thing I can change. How? I’m taking a sabbatical from things that create stress for me. I’m re-reading a book called “How We Choose to Be Happy – The 9 choices of Extremely Happy People-their secrets, their stories.” This is a way that “truly happy people make conscious decisions about how they will confront life’s challenges. In the face of sometimes overwhelming circumstances, they create happiness by making the same nine internally driven choices.”

Summary

So I have told you about my horrible, no good awful year 🙂 (like Alexander’s No good, horrible awful day – a delightful children’s book).

I’ve told you a basic response that came out of the pain, fatigue, and feeling powerlessness.

Fury came. Fury delivered the emotional energy that I could morph into resolve.

With it the decision arrived that I will be victim no more.

And a resolve so bone deep that it seared out all the hopelessness and despair and left complete resolve that I will live my life differently no matter what the circumstances. Now that is resolution I want you to know. And although my diseases are still active, I am happy. Bone Deep happy. And I intend to stay that way no matter what.

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Victim, Perpetrator, Rescuer or Empowered?

Life Flame and the Law of Success

Control Your Attention Secret Key # 11 to the Law of Success

What Two Ingredients Put you into Flow?

Transformation (includes The Gifts of Adversity)

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To Flow or Not to Flow; That Is the Question

Saturday, June 14th, 2014

There is a parable that has served me whenever I am transitioning into something big. It goes like this.

    Along the bottom of a great crystal river lived a village of creatures who clung to the rocks and twigs to hold against the current. The water flowed with great ferocity. Tightly the creatures gripped their river bottom to hold against the flow.

Eventually one creature said, this current seems to know where it is going. I am tempted to let follow this movement. The other villagers cried, “no, no, you will be dashed and bashed against the rocks.  The only way to survive is hang on here forever.” And so the creature stayed for a while longer, struggling to control his grip against the powerful flow.

One day, in a depressed, fatigued moment, he said “if this is all there is then I choose to let go and at least die in the adventure. All I know is clinging, and gripping and resisting the momentum of this terrible current and it is not enough.” In one breath, he pried his fingers from his small rock. Immediately he was taken, rolled, and tumbled into many obstacles becoming bruised. And for many long moments, he thought ‘what have I done?’

Sweeping around the curve in the river, he became aware that he was aloft in the clear waters. Below him were other villages of creatures who noticed him, and cried “look there is one like us who flies!”

And he pondered his long life of clinging, and his life now of flying, and he was glad.

This parable from Richard Bach’s book Illusions inspired me as I moved, left a long relationship, changed jobs and cities when I was young and lived in Florida. Shall I cling to the old, or let go into the flow of the unknown and see what it reveals? That choice to let go of a life where I was not truly happy, allowed me to move into a life that held more fulfillment.

I left my profession as a private investigator and repossessor, collection agency manager, and went back to college, finished my undergrad work, worked in the Career Office of Eckerd College, and fell in love with Academia, small private schools and the community that worked together to support the education of young people. That move allowed me to also study Humanistic Psychology (which was a forerunner of transpersonal psychology), to practice Tai Chi at dawn along the bay seawall, immersed in salt air, and pelican cries as we watched the sun rise. My roommate was studying Psychosynthesis in her Master’s program, and I began my long term love affair with Roberto Assagioli and Carl Jung.

Deeply part of that three years was Rolphing and attending Laws of Life classes, Shusta, the Kaballah, Dream Analysis, Huna, Astrology, and exposure to other ancient wisdoms and esoteric philosophies such as Theosophy, taught or offered in the bookstore of The Temple of the Living God, my spiritual home.

It was the most fertile period of my life, for it held the seeds of all that I pursued for the rest of my life.

Had I held tight to what I knew at the bottom of the river as it pressed forward, I would lack so much depth and breadth.

Richard Bach’s metaphor continued(s) to help me remember the possibility of flow. With each shift of life, there would come a time, when I would become clutching and rigid again, holding to what I knew, rather than experience that majesty of drifting in the flow. And by now, I knew that to let go meant some mighty bumps and bruises before I was swept into the flow of the current.

“Am I flowing, or clutching the river bottom?” became a question I would ask as my life would continue in a cycle. Many times, I found I was clutching the river bottom.

Richard Bach became one of my internal mentors as I read Bridge Across Forever, and One. I had begun writing in my late teens. His storytelling imparts great wisdom in a compelling way. I wanted to model myself after he and his wife. I was fascinated with his way of living, perhaps in a trailer with books overflowing both sides of his bed, living with the love of his life, trying to save a forest of trees. Then later he moved from Oregon to the San Juan Islands. As I read his story, I felt those islands call to me.

It is only now in hindsight that I see the deep desire that was covered by the strong belief I could never do it. The belief was so strong that I never held living in the San Juans as a goal. Besides, I was married, had small children and lived in Minnesota when I first heard the siren call of the islands.

When I hit the stall last year, I was confused and concerned. I couldn’t lift out of it. My continued use of Psychosynthesis techniques and philosophy over my lifetime suggested that I trust the process. That I trust my process. When one is down, it is much harder to hold to higher levels of understanding, because we have shrunk in awareness, and our capacity to problem solve shrinks.

All I could do is continue to ask the question “what is going on?” When I received no answers, I had to surrender to the process. Yes, I had gotten sick, yes, my dearest brother had almost died and it terrified me, yes, I got into a brouhaha with my closest friend, and we weren’t speaking. Yes, I got into another challenging situation with the community in which I lived. Even collectively, there wasn’t a good enough reason to have taken my urge to write. I have been through many adversities. This time, I dithered. I lost some hope and eventually began to be resigned to where I was emotionally.

However I was asking for help from the universal managers, and any non-human helper that would listen.

Then my roommate brought home this exercise that she had done that had shifted her perspective immensely about someone who had done her great harm with intention. When I saw her attitude had changed in one hour from using a process called NeuroMastery, I wanted to take that class. You can read more about that story by reading Transformation is at hand.

I felt inspired at a time when little had been interesting. I followed that inspiration to act. I signed up for the class. Amazing things happened.

My daughter signed up as well. Between the exercises that I was doing every day, I realized that I had shut off a part of me. One of my dearestly held qualities is that of aliveness. Would you believe that there are a lot of places where aliveness is not treasured. Bringing the fullness of me to many situations where I live was breaking some norms. Others saw it as too emotional, too loud, to consuming, too much.

I had slowly been conforming to what others would prefer from me at cost to myself, and it had all happened under the surface without my awareness. When I realized what I had done (others did not do it to me, I had done it to myself), I had a huge aha. Immediately followed the strong decision that I was not going to give up my aliveness for anything or anyone.

As I shared this with my daughter, she said “Mom. When I saw you three months ago, I was appalled. I didn’t recognize you. You had resigned yourself to getting older and living as you were currently. I didn’t see any dreams or enthusiam for which you are know.” Resignation! As she said it, the truth of that statement resonated inside. The truth was I couldn’t even find any dreams to have. Two major ahas, back to back. They energized me. The decision to embrace my aliveness filled me with resolution.

I had been thinking I would live in this community for the rest of my life, because I love it here. But what to do with the variance between the norms of being business-like, without passion at meetings, and the exuberance I share at the top of my lungs? For the first time, I considered the possibility of living somewhere else.

Now here is how I experience my decisions about identity and where I live. It was like having little latches inside, where as I committed to living in this community, a part of me “latched” into the reality of living here, in this community and in this town. Not too dissimilar from grasping the bottom rocks of the river. Which begs the question, of “how do I live in commitment, but not in rigidity, or resignation?” But that is for another entry.

Simultaneously, the community choir that has brought me such joy changed directors. It was great at first, then later, as the concert approached we got more and more tense about our ability to perform, because we were singing incredibly difficult pieces. I don’t normally go around getting mad at stuff, but I got mad at my director and my section. I noticed that my mad was disproportionate to what stimulated them. I was reacting like crazy. To the point where another latch that I had made to this community because of the choir was unlocked. I grumbled “Choir is about singing, having joy, and this is no longer fun, just hard work.” I was mad enough, and committed enough to having joy in my life, that I wouldn’t waste time in an activity that did not give back to me in fulfillment and joy.

When I moved in with my roommate two years ago, I was in bliss because I lived with someone of like mindedness and we care about each other. When she lost her job last October pushing her into retirement far earlier that she considered, suddenly there were two adults home all day long. I noticed that I was getting cranky about not having enough space in my room. Circumstances had suddenly invited me to consider living alone. The third latch was loosened.

These synchronicities were not brought about me consciously. But there was a deeper process at work behind the scenes.

And it was at this point that I made a pivotal choice. Instead of cancelling my trip to the San Juan Islands, I would go. I was pretty grumpy, energized, and not sure where all the movement was going. There was a lot of bruising. And then when I arrived and stepped off the ferry, I felt my world sync and morph as I began to “Dwell in Possibilities“.

Every time I go to the islands, I remember my journeys through Richard Bach’s world. I don’t know where he lives now, but I think it is still in the San Juan Islands. These islands call to me. I go out to the park, and look over the waters to the mountains rising on Lummi, Orcas, Guemes and other islands.
Every time I head downtown, I crest a large hill and there before me is the Bay and the waters shimmering in the sunlight, or even fog, and my heart leaps.

As I gaze across the expanse of water, my energy flows, lifts, and expands. What would it be like to live closer?

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Victim, Perpetrator, Rescuer, or Empowered?

Monday, September 30th, 2013

Victim, Perpetrator, Rescuer or Empowered? That is the question.

What is going on? Everyone I know is having some kind of emotional challenge. 

 

I think that we are in the middle of a large vibrational shift in our culture. To be the best we can be, situations are happening where we can look at our lesser behaviors, and make different choices about how to cope.

 

For us to be the full, expressive, powerful successful vibrant self, we need to stand in our knowingness, our strength and our authenticity. Many of us have built in blocks to standing in our positive strength. 

 

One cycle of behavior that most all of us were taught in some way revolves around  feeling our personal power. Somehow we were taught different stances of personal strength. This damaged personal power structure is the victim-rescuer-perpetrator triangle.

 

Anyone who wonders about their value or asks if they are “good enough,” feels small and powerless. That is a symptom of feeling a victim of circumstance, a person, or a group or government. We don’t feel a sense of power.

 

You have seen folks who feel emphatic that they need to protect themselves by using words, emphasis or their bodies to make their point. Often harm happens as a result. Some type of perpetration happens when we blame others, criticize, or push and shove our way to the front of the line. We seem to live in a society these days that needs to find blame somewhere somehow.  The people who stand in the perpetrator part of the triangle feel like they are regaining some of their personal power back by hurting others.

 

The third leg of the triangle is the rescuer behavior pattern, where people try to feel better by helping someone else. “You’re not doing very OK. If I help you someway, then I prove my worth and can feel good about myself.”   Rescuers feel their personal power by giving others advice, helping them, but usually in a way that says to the person being helped, “you’re not OK. You need me to help you.”

 

What’s really sneaky about this whole dynamic, is that no one feels empowered while standing anywhere on the victim perpetrator rescuer triangle. When we are not empowered, we ache and hurt inside so much that we will do anything for some relief. So we move to another place on the triangle. A person who is laid off and feeling victimized by the economy feels powerless (victim). To feel more powerful, they look for someone to blame loudly or shout at the children or kick the dog (perpetrator). They may decide to help out at the food bank because when they are volunteering, they don’t feel so much a victim (rescuer).  

 

Anyone who has practiced any of these coping behaviors on the victim, rescuer, perpetrator triangle, knows very well how to act from any part. Victims know how to be perpetrators. Rescuers know how to be perpetrators. Perpetrators probably started out as victims or rescuers.  We each move to a place on the triangle in response to what is happening in our lives. 

 

These times urgently call for us to step off this triangle where we use our power in a damaged way.

 

These times call for us to step into our strength.

 

Perhaps this call is far beyond our comfort range. Perhaps this call does not seem to honor our timing.

 

The times itself are giving us the opportunity to either entrench into the old patterns, or to find a powerful way to transcend the old outmoded ways of being. Some people may in fact feel victimized by these times. 

 

So what are you going to do?  It is a huge and very important choice.

 

I don’t know about you, but I do not want to be a victim. I am tired of that. I choose to find my personal strength, even when everything else may not seem to support it. I know that the Universe DOES SUPPORT US.  It is calling us to reach in very deep.

 

It calls to us to reach deeply for the highest and best in ourselves. 

 

What do you choose?

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Do You Stop Success with “I Can’t Because” Thinking?

Sunday, August 25th, 2013

Do you stop Success with “I Can’t Because” Thinking?

 

Do you stop success with “I can’t because” thinking? I have. Repeatedly. I watch other people stop their success because the say “I can’t.”

I can’t because I am too busy.
I can’t because I am too tired.
I can’t because I don’t have enough time.
I can’t because I don’t have enough money.
I can’t because I don’t have the opportunities of others.
I can’t because I am afraid people won’t like me.
I can’t because I will be too visible.
I can’t because I don’t have the skills.
I can’t because I don’t know how.
I can’t because I don’t have the talent.
I can’t because I don’t have the contacts necessary
I can’t because I don’t know how to “sell.”
I can’t because I am a professional.
I can’t because I don’t have enough education.
I can’t because I don’t have organizational skills.
I can’t because I don’t know how to start and run a business.
I can’t because I don’t have the start up costs.
I can’t because I don’t have enough confidence.
I can’t because I don’t trust myself.
I can’t because I don’t trust the Universe to provide with opportunity, people, and anything else I need.
I can’t because I don’t have enough experience.
I can’t because I am not old enough.
I can’t because I am too old.
Shall I go on?

When you utter the words “I can’t.” you absolutely shut the door to success. Success is now impossibility. There is no way forward from the position of I can’t.

I have seen people I love and respect absolutely stop progress forward with that sentence, which they believe wholeheartedly. When you believe it that fundamentally, you never ask another question, you never move anywhere. Essentially you have placed your feet in concrete and it has dried, anchoring you where you are.

Sometimes you don’t say it to your self, or to others, but it is implied in your behavior. This came home to me recently. A self improvement program that I was listening to suggested I be very specific about what I wanted money for. Then it asked me to figure how much money I needed.

I spent 65 years having written out goals and but never attaching a dollar figure to it. When I did, I suddenly said, that is doable. I know people in my life who make that amount of money. I can too. I wanted to visit my children 3 times a year and pay all my own costs for hotel, flights, taxies and meals. I wanted to visit family and friends that I care about without worrying about fund.

Within one month, I made travel plans to visit friends in Oregon, and my daughter begged me repeatedly to come visit her. When I bought the tickets, I felt like a million bucks. And this was in a month when I had a huge unexpected cost, I was about to retreat into “I can’t make it through this month because I don’t have enough money”

Suddenly I said to myself. “Same old thinking. What if? What if I decided to say instead, “how can I receive more money?”

Within two days I had four jobs that gave me more expendable income than I had had the prior couple of months. Before I received those jobs, I made the decision to visit a friend about five hours south of me. I talked to her, looked up the train fare, and got a deal round trip for half price. I purchased the tickets, and didn’t worry. Then the jobs came in.

Then my daughter begged me to come, and I opened to the possibility of planning a trip to see her. She wanted me to come for a week!

In my prior mindset, I thought of myself on a restricted income which did not allow me the freedom to plan a vacation or a visit to my children unless special circumstances happened. It was a much more subtle version of “I can’t.” I am astounded to look back at this month which I thought was originally severely restricted in funds, and see that I have met all my needs, and had more than enough surplus. I had the money to buy the tickets at times when costs were significantly lower. I had more than enough money to hostess my brother and sister-in-law when they came for a visit earlier this week.

I was busier than I have been in a long time. I got healthier, my energy was enhanced, and I contributed more to my community. Today I am about to leave on that trip to see friends tomorrow and I have a presentation to make tonight. Lots to do. A great opportunity to say “I can’t write this blog entry because I don’t have enough time. But the truth is that writing enriches me. So I chose to write.

There’s a secret to turning this “I can’t” around. You begin to ask “I wonder” instead.

We are living in a powerful time. It is intense. It is fast paced. It is challenging. But it holds immense ripeness for us to make internals shifts of our thinking. We are being called to rise to our very best, and there is support for us to make these transformations. You definitely won’t do it, if you say “I can’t.”

I wonder how I can rise to my best in this really uncomfortable situation? I’d really like to get revenge for being treated with such disrespect. What other options might there be? I wonder how I could use my anger to make forward action with wisdom?

Reality completely shifts in that moment. You suddenly have access to a much broader field of possibilities. Inspiration will come to you. Angels will brush your thought.

You don’t need to process long and hard, all you need to do is ask “I wonder how I can do this differently?” I guarantee the Universe will meet you and support you if you ask for guidance and support.

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Art of Connecting with the Power of Creation

Monday, January 31st, 2011

“I wish I could master the art of connecting with this power of creation on demand.” writes one of my readers. Well, J, you can. Mastering your “State of Being” is an art. It is a practice. It may take time. But what better investment of your time can you possibly imagine?

What you read about how to create and the law of attraction is very powerful, and the steps are simple. Imagine what you want, in full profound passionate color and detail until it is very vivid. Ask for it. Anticipate it. Expect it. Relax and focus on well-being. Let the angels and managers of the universe do their work. Watch for signs and signals that the universe is at work. Know that the force that creates worlds can respond to the rather smaller request that you have.

If you can do all that without dipping into negativity, wondering why its not here yet, focusing on what you don’t have, and doubting that you deserve what you want, and the other many ways we trip ourselves up, then what you want will arrive – it is Law.

Therein lies where we need the art of mastery of our own state of being. When you are connected with your own Source Self, You will know that your request will be met. There are many other places within ourselves that we have created over the years, that are not resonant with the clear knowing of Self.

So imagine that inside you is a little family – your very own unique version of a relatively complex group of parts of self. It could include a judge, skeptic, rebel, inner child, earth mother, lover, parent, worker bee, party person, wit, poet, wisdom sayer, activist, spiritual searcher, naysayer, victim, empowered warrior, idealist, zealot, righteous rule maker and perhaps a sprite or pixie or two. My goodness there’s a lot of us inside this skin. What does each one of these inner characters think about this desire you have? What do they say to you? What do each of them believe about the universe?

Can you see how so much disparity could set up a real mix of signals. Your vibratory offering is very muddled, when the critic says, “It’ll never happen” “You don’t deserve it.” The righteous rule maker says “who do you think you are. God?” The Empowered Warrior responds “I can do it.” The anxious little kid says “I get hurt when I ask for what I want.” The realist inside you says. “No way. Look at what’s happening in the economy, I can barely make ends meet. I’m tired and scared.” The spiritual seeker says “There’s gotta be a way.”

You and your inner little family are not sending out vibrations that are resonant with your request, your desire for success. That’s what usually gets in the way of CONNECTING WITH THE POWER OF CREATION.

When you pray, or meditate, or contemplate, or practice 17 seconds, you are tuning in the whole inner family of self into the zone of connection, moving into the power and presence of knowing. You are getting all the signals aligned with each other.

Building bridges of connection and alignment with your inner characters, will help you get what you want. It builds your confidence. It places you in the zone. It helps you have unbelievable powers of creation. And all of you can be a team for success. Read more about Understanding Your State. Then read the essay to learn how to Shift States.

Learn how to Accept how these parts of you act and respond. Recognize, Accept and Coordinate all the inner reactions that you have.

Most of all remind yourself that you are on your own personal journey, Where you are is where you are, and it is OK, and you will train and get more knowledgeable about the process, and next week you will be better at it, and next year even better, and during your whole life, you will continue to develop the Art of Connecting to the Source within, the Power that Creates Worlds. Read about this true Inner Secret.

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Life Flame and Law of Success

Wednesday, February 04th, 2009


Life force
, your eternal flame and the Law of Success are deeply connected. Within each of us burns a flame, an internal fire. We are the custodians of that flame. The choices we make in our lives either add to or dampen the life force we have been given.

When we have a roaring fire within, we feel confident, strong and courageous. We are inspired with visions and we have what it takes to go after our dreams. We can be focused, see with clarity, speak truthfully, yet have humility. We easily flow with the Law of Success

When we neglect our internal flame, it sputters, we feel scared, we worry, and feel self-doubt. We doubt that we have anything to give to the world. We look to the outside to find things to make us feel better. Our internal fire feels tired and starved. We want other people to “feed our fires.” We are at odds with the Law of Success.

Life is a pure flame and we live by an invisible sun within us.
-Thomas Broune

“Our flames are our essence. When they are well fed, they hold all the power of that roaring fire. But our internal flames must be looked after and protected. We must honor them and care for them, tend them and nourish them, if they are to stay strong. Our job is to protect these flames, knowing that they are our life force, our spirit, and the keeper of our divinity,” says Debby Ford in The Right Questions. When we stoke our inner fire, we coordinate with the Law of Success.

What if our only job in life is to keep this inner fire vital and robust? Our life fire warms and enhances the life of those around us. We enjoy warming ourselves around the life fire of our friends and loved ones. We enjoy basking in the warmth of our own internal fire when it burns briskly. The Law of Success depends upon the life force in each of us, and in each particle of the Universe to resonate. Stoke your internal fire and take very good care of that flame, and Law of Success will give you all the love, money, healthy, fulfillment that you desire.

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Self Awareness

Sunday, January 11th, 2009

Self Awareness is vital. Our success, our joie de vivre, our fulfillment in life depends on our field of awareness, our state of mind, our state of consciousness. Our job is self awareness. At this moment where or who are we in this field of consciousness? Holding the awareness of this immediate perspective of consciousness and simultaneously remembering The Self is a huge job. Most of us don’t do it, or can’t do it yet.

Our awareness both expands and shrinks, depending upon our state of consciousness. If I feel scarcity, I contract. If I feel the awe of seeing the rosy, sun kissed top of the Olympic Peninsula Mountains on a crisp January morning, I expand and become more of who I am. I have parts of me that are driven, fearful and more contracted. I have parts of me that are creative, are philosophic, and have wisdom – those are more expansive.

When I meditate, and go to my witness self, and reach to my higher Self, I expand and include more of my consciousness, more of my awareness. Think of self as being a continuum which includes my dark self, my child selves, my adult self, all aspects of personality that have developed as I have grown, and, my Higher Self, my Soul. Where we reside on that continuum determines our vibration and what we attract.

We move from awareness to awareness, from point of consciousness to another point of consciousness often in reaction to external events. Some one finds fault with us or our work. Our own inner critic joins in, our child self whimpers. At that moment, our adult self hopefully will intervene, soothe, and remember that no one is perfect. From the perspective of Soul or Self, you are already perfect in your imperfections. From the consciousness inside the critic however, there is no such concept.

Psychosynthesis is a spiritual philosophy that teaches us self awareness and how to develop the capacity to observe and direct self so that we are not at the mercy of our reactions but a center of consciousness that makes choices about where and how we identify self. Staying connected to Source and Self is an act of consciousness and awareness.


Understanding Your State
is another article with more about learning how to have compatibility between Source Self and Personal Self.

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The Secret Key to Law of Success # 11 Control Your Attention

Sunday, December 14th, 2008

The Secret Key to Law of Success # 11 Control Your Attention


Control your attention.
Your subconscious mind needs a clear picture on which to act. Control your attention because what you focus on increases. Focus on your enterprise. Imagine it in its full-blown scope. By your single-pointedness, you communicate to the universe that you are expecting success, and one way it might look. Control your attention is the secret key to law of success.

When you control your attention, you can choose what you focus upon. When you are in touch with your vision and dream of the future, it is easy to control your attention. Single-pointedness is a tool in the secret key to law of success. When you are disconnected from your dream or vision of the future, it is not as easy to control your attention. You cannot control yourself by telling yourself to not focus on something that is bothering you.

You can’t tell your mind not to focus on envy, worry, doubt, jealousy. You will just keep seeing more of the same. What you can do to control your attention is to focus on something else. By focusing on what you want, in clear detail, you give your mind a direction. Help control your attention by asking the question, ‘what is it I want in this situation? This technique is part of the secret key to law of success.

Many people react to what they experience. To control your attention, you need not focus on the “what is”. Gently turn your attention to what you want – “What is to be.” It is hard to jump from depression, fear, discouragement to fleshing out your dream of what you want “to be”. So you control your attention by taking small steps – each small step is part of the secret key to operating the law of success.

If your fear is driving your bus, control your attention by saying “well of course part of me is afraid. There is more to me than my fear, worry, and discouragement.” As you soothe the part of you that has taken charge of your thinking, you help yourself remember other aspects of self and you are gently beginning to control your attention. Remind yourself of the secret key of law of success by saying “That part of me has been listening to the news and has gotten worried. That is not all the news however. There are people who are happy and prosperous, and doing quite well no matter what the times. I intend to join that group of people.”

“It is the universe’s pleasure to bring well-being and prosperity into my life. I will pull out my focus book and remember the thoughts and ideas that bring me joy and pleasure. As I turn my focus, I am operating the secret key to the law of success.”

When a lot of people think the same sort of thoughts, it sets up a magnetic charge. If you think thoughts that have a similar pattern to those thought by this mass of people, you can easily join in the “group think” and find yourself in a funk. Control your attention by aligning your thoughts with well being and plenty which is part of the secret key to the law of success.

To control your attention, you may want to find a spiritual discipline that helps you routinely tune into the infinite. That is why prayer, meditation, and imagery are so successful. Purposeful tuning of your mind and thoughts to something greater that is expansive is a powerful way to control your attention one of the secret keys to operating with the law of success.

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The Secret Key to Law of Success #9

Sunday, November 02nd, 2008

The Secret Key to Law of Success #9
Channel Self-Discipline

The Secret Key to Law of Success #9 is to channel self-discipline. Self-Discipline is the avenue through which you direct the flow of your personal power for success. Many people do not know how to self-discipline. Others do not want to learn how to direct self in the form of self-discipline. If you had or have a problem with authority figures, you probably have a problem with authority over yourself as well. Different aspects of self can run you ragged away from success, if you don’t develop the mature adult “self.” Every act you make of self-discipline will help you develop your mature self which takes you toward success. Read more about the “I” and your personality here.

The most astounding power you have is a function called “Will.” It gives you’re the power to choose and the power to act. It is essential, the secret key to Law of Success. Self-Discipline is just one way to describe the practice of developing your capacity to choose and act; your will.

Napoleon Hill diagramed six departments of the self to be coordinated by self-discipline – the secret key to Law of Success # 8.

      1. Ego – Seat of Willpower – he called it the Supreme Court over all the other departments of the minds, saying its seat of power is in the subconscious mind.

 

      2. Faculty of the emotions – seat of action-power of the mind.

 

      3. Faculty of reason – seat of judgment and opinions.

 

      4. Faculty of Imagination – origin of imagination.

 

      5. Faculty of Conscience – the moral guide.

 

    6. Memory – keeper of the records of the mind.

Roberto Assagioli and Carl Jung describe similar functions of the self. The Myers Briggs Personality Inventory is based on this theory. You will see on the following diagram that thought, emotions, imagination, intuition, impulse-desire, and sensations are the six functions of the person. At the core is the self – or the “I.” Will is the energy with which we can coordinate all the functions, rather than have them use us. Will is the central function of self-discipline – an essential ingredient to using the secret key to the Law of Success.

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Napoleon Hill suggested the “sixth sense” of Telepathy which is the broadcasting station of the brain – connecting with other brains. He called the subconscious section of the mind as the connecting link between the mind of men and Infinite Intelligence. Telepathy or Intuition is one avenue of the secret key to the Law of Success. It is the way the Universe connects like minds and brings together opportunities. To be receptive to intuition requires use of self-discipline to quiet the mind and feelings and senses. The practice of prayer and meditation are ways self-discipline is used to tap into Infinite Intelligence.

“Your self-discipline is the procedure you use to coordinate these departments of your mind and keep each of them under control. Its most immediate effect is the mental harmony you need to focus all your efforts towards success.” Napoleon Hill

 

Athletes harness their enormous power through the use of exercising and training their body through the use of their personal will; self-discipline. They are just one example of how the personal function of the will can be used to mobilize the self toward personal achievement of success. These people utilize self-discipline, the secret key to Law of Success #8.

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