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Darkness has Purpose

Sunday, December 21st, 2014

Awakening this morning in the dark, I tried to remember the details of a dream, where a woman had amputated her own limbs. The disturbing image made me ask questions. “What is my subconscious trying to tell me?” If the dream woman represented me, what did it mean? I stuck with the unpleasant topic. It is just before Christmas. In fact today is December 21, the shortest day of the year, the Winter Solstice. As each day has ended lately, I have wanted to go to bed after the sun sets.

At a Sunday talk, there were lots of references to the solstice traditions that got piggy-backed by Christmas rituals. The day has reminded me again of the darkness that is natural. “In the dark you see what you have not been looking for (Requium).” Greta Crosby wrote “Let us not wish away winter. It is a season to itself, not simply the way to spring.”

So in the last darkness of morning on this darkest day of the year, I asked my self questions about what I was feeling. After some reflection, I found some depression. “About what,” I asked. With some deeper probing, up floated the recognition that I’m missing my family nest traditions of celebrating with my children. They are grown with their own lives which may or may not include times together. In the spirit of the holidays, I had tucked that ache deeply away (amputated it if you will).

Earlier in the week, I had been researching the topic of aging. Again I tucked the uncomfortable feelings about my own aging away, feelings that needed to be seen, acknowledged and honored.

I did not realize I was depressed, I had to get a wake-up call from my dreams.

On this Solstice day, I am reminded from within and without that dark and light are important. Joys and sorrows are part of life. It is okay to be positive, and look at how we can grow from our experiences. It is okay to hold space for the dark. It part of the human experience to have sad feelings, nostalgic experiences. People do die. Wonderful children can inherit a gene that passes along an incurable disease. Life stages come and go. What a family was 20 years ago may look very different now.

I was telling my daughter in one of our daily talks (which I would much rather have – than a holiday visit), that one of the things I most valued about myself was my willingness to feel both my positive and negative feelings and hold space for them and be OK with them. It is easy for me to jokingly tell someone “I am grouchy today,” and in the telling the energy disperses. Being more vulnerable to myself and to others to acknowledge that I feel sad that my body is not as healthy and agile as it was, is deeper.

I think of these feelings as compost for the psyche. I want good rich soil for when I want to grow something new. So as I go about merry-making during these festive times of year, I remind myself that my own aches and griefs are similar to the onion peels I discarded this morning as we prepared a spinach omelet for breakfast. With each meal that is prepared, there are layers that are peeled away from the vegetables that go into the compost bin, having served their purpose; to protect the wonderful heart of the vegetable during the growing process. Rather than think about them as scraps, we could be treasuring them for the vitality they will add back to the soil.

All of me is needed, not just the juicy upbeat desire for success. As I embrace and honor those other aspects and feelings of myself, (my regrets, my missings, my sadnesses, yearnings, wishing things were a little different) I make space for them. Then they are acknowledged and in the ritual of recognition and acceptance, I effortlessly move on to something else, with more depth and dimension to my being.

It may not be easy to wait in the dark, but if I don’t judge it, or push it, but be with it in the present moment, transformation will occur somehow. In Sweet Darkness David Whyte wrote. “The night will give you a horizon further than you can see.. Sometimes it takes darkness and the sweet confinement of your aloneness to learn anything or anyone that does not bring you alive is too small for you.

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Gifts of Adversity

Tuesday, July 08th, 2014

To receive the gifts of adversity, we need to turn our way of looking at the difficult situation completely upside down. Having a disease, or a severe health problem, or being limited in money, or stuck in a job you don’t like may in fact be a huge gift in disguise.

My daughter taught me this recently. She had been agonizing about the health of her horse who would get better and then another issue would emerge. After a couple of years of helping this horse and not being able to ride him, she finally had to draw a line in the sand and begin to contemplate putting the horse down. She couldn’t imagine anyone else being willing to own that horse because it was un-rideable. This severely limited her options.

Finally turning to her own inner guidance, she imagined what the horse might want for its life. Then she went to visit the horse and meditated while she was in the horse’s presence. Here’s what she learned.

1. When you look through the eyes of Source, things look very different. The horse had come into her life to help her heal a number of traumas around animals. The horse did not want to be ridden because it had such trauma around being ridden that it would rather not live than constantly be facing pain and terror.

2. We live in the context of the web of all life. We are never separate from the interconnection, no matter how alone we feel. After meditating with the horse, she realized how profoundly the horse had helped her heal and so she started researching online and found resources where horses were used for healing people in a number of settings. She had never heard about horses being utilized that way. When she connected with one of those people in that profession, they became quite interested in acquiring her horse.

3. Amazing and magical things happen when you let go your old perceptions and turn your beliefs upside down. All kind of new possibilities can flow in after you let go scarcity and contracted old ways of thinking. She literally saw 7 other horses who were in worse shape be adopted by concerned animal lovers. Hers did not get adopted until she was able to come into a whole new understanding of her relationship with her horse (and she is a conscious, ethical, concerned animal owner).

4. You turn your perspective around by asking these questions. How would Source see this situation? What if you embraced this difficulty and asked what gifts you have received in this life as a result of having this problem?

5. When you look for the gifts, you find them. Three days ago I was very frustrated by the medical options facing me regarding my health. My daughter challenged me to do what she had done. Look through the health issue through the eyes of Source and look for the gifts. I took the her challenge and began looking for the gifts. My daughter and I left MN when my finances were really smarting, and my health had deteriorated.

As a result we have moved to an area of the country that I had wanted to explore. I retired early from my occupation, and began writing about things I really cared about. Because of my health issues and finances, I settled in this state and had to look at alternative ways to support myself. While I was still ill, I took a caretaking position on a farm and met one of my closest friends here. She introduced me to other friends, and through her I found my way into a choir that I love, into a city that I love, into a community that I love, and she has taken me through a huge set of adventures enjoying the wide outdoors through her naturalist eyes.

She took me to the island that I now want to move to, and gave me the mug that says “Dwell in the Realm of Possibility.”

So in the weirdest and oddest twists of events, my money scarcity and health problem evoked a whole new life with new friends which I adore. I am happier now than I have ever been.

6. When we receive the gifts with gratitude that adversity brings, perhaps we are close to learning the lessons that the adversity provides and we may be able to graduate and move onto the next stage of growth. With looking at my health issue as an opportunity for transformation from my higher Self, I no longer feel so angry and antagonistic about my colitis. With the release of those feelings of victimization, then new possibilities are beginning to emerge. As a result of the research I did before seeing my doctor, I was knowledgeable enough to say no, I don’t want cortizones, no I don’t want immunosuppressants, what else can we consider? I was able to ask about 2 other drugs. She was able to give me some strong alternatives. (The drug I had been using was creating major side effects).

She had already worked with me as I had changed my diet (letting go wheat and dairy). Now as a result of my research, I have other alternative ways to reduce inflammation and look forward to a time when I may become drug free.

7. What if when I have symptoms in the future I cradle my abdomen and say “Thank you body, for being the instrument through which I have received the life of my dreams?” This puts me into a completely different relationship with my body, my finances, and my disease. Instead of circumstances which I feel at the mercy of, or need to push against; I cradle with gratitude and acceptance and grace, my infirmity. Now that is a mind bender. And maybe I won’t need the condition any longer for my growth, and I can move forward. Life is full of infinite possibilities. It could happen.

May you discover the wonder of the gifts you have received through these difficult times.

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Art of Connecting with the Power of Creation

Monday, January 31st, 2011

“I wish I could master the art of connecting with this power of creation on demand.” writes one of my readers. Well, J, you can. Mastering your “State of Being” is an art. It is a practice. It may take time. But what better investment of your time can you possibly imagine?

What you read about how to create and the law of attraction is very powerful, and the steps are simple. Imagine what you want, in full profound passionate color and detail until it is very vivid. Ask for it. Anticipate it. Expect it. Relax and focus on well-being. Let the angels and managers of the universe do their work. Watch for signs and signals that the universe is at work. Know that the force that creates worlds can respond to the rather smaller request that you have.

If you can do all that without dipping into negativity, wondering why its not here yet, focusing on what you don’t have, and doubting that you deserve what you want, and the other many ways we trip ourselves up, then what you want will arrive – it is Law.

Therein lies where we need the art of mastery of our own state of being. When you are connected with your own Source Self, You will know that your request will be met. There are many other places within ourselves that we have created over the years, that are not resonant with the clear knowing of Self.

So imagine that inside you is a little family – your very own unique version of a relatively complex group of parts of self. It could include a judge, skeptic, rebel, inner child, earth mother, lover, parent, worker bee, party person, wit, poet, wisdom sayer, activist, spiritual searcher, naysayer, victim, empowered warrior, idealist, zealot, righteous rule maker and perhaps a sprite or pixie or two. My goodness there’s a lot of us inside this skin. What does each one of these inner characters think about this desire you have? What do they say to you? What do each of them believe about the universe?

Can you see how so much disparity could set up a real mix of signals. Your vibratory offering is very muddled, when the critic says, “It’ll never happen” “You don’t deserve it.” The righteous rule maker says “who do you think you are. God?” The Empowered Warrior responds “I can do it.” The anxious little kid says “I get hurt when I ask for what I want.” The realist inside you says. “No way. Look at what’s happening in the economy, I can barely make ends meet. I’m tired and scared.” The spiritual seeker says “There’s gotta be a way.”

You and your inner little family are not sending out vibrations that are resonant with your request, your desire for success. That’s what usually gets in the way of CONNECTING WITH THE POWER OF CREATION.

When you pray, or meditate, or contemplate, or practice 17 seconds, you are tuning in the whole inner family of self into the zone of connection, moving into the power and presence of knowing. You are getting all the signals aligned with each other.

Building bridges of connection and alignment with your inner characters, will help you get what you want. It builds your confidence. It places you in the zone. It helps you have unbelievable powers of creation. And all of you can be a team for success. Read more about Understanding Your State. Then read the essay to learn how to Shift States.

Learn how to Accept how these parts of you act and respond. Recognize, Accept and Coordinate all the inner reactions that you have.

Most of all remind yourself that you are on your own personal journey, Where you are is where you are, and it is OK, and you will train and get more knowledgeable about the process, and next week you will be better at it, and next year even better, and during your whole life, you will continue to develop the Art of Connecting to the Source within, the Power that Creates Worlds. Read about this true Inner Secret.

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Recognition, Acceptance, and Coordination

Sunday, July 11th, 2010


Recognition, Acceptance, and Coordination
are three really important steps to be successful.

How do we coordinate all these contrary parts of self, contradicting beliefs, conflicting emotions and have some sense of being our true self? That is the age old quandary. A spiritual psychological approach with a lot of wisdom provides a five part process that I find very helpful. Psychosynthesis instead of Psychoanalysis. Bring together instead of separate into parts (although that is a helpful step in the beginning).

Recognition
Acceptance
Coordination
Integration
Synthesis

To truly be successful, we need to have all of our self on the same page. If the scared part of us is afraid to act, the cynical part of us completely assured that nothing ever works out, and the hopeful part of us thinking only positive thoughts, what do you think we radiate out to the universe? We are broadcasting very mixed signals, very conflicting feelings, and certainly opposite beliefs. Our vibration is confusing. What does the universe listen to when we are sending out such a mess of conflict?

Recognition of the conflict is the first step. Become aware that we have a small part inside, and a critical part inside, and an adult inside. Becoming conscious of the little “Family” of selves inside who have different thoughts, different beliefs, and different feelings is very helpful. Becoming conscious of our inner confusion is the first step because we are beginning to Recognize aspects of ourselves.

While not easy to do at first, Acceptance that we are a mixture of confusing signals is the next step. Beating up on ourselves is NOT the next step. Although if you have a critical part inside, you can bet that it will certainly want to go into action and tell you that you are bad and wrong for having such an internal bunch of feelings and thought. That is why you really need to reach for acceptance. Because you are able to step back, breath, see yourself, and accept yourself as you are. I have written a whole category on acceptance, which you might find helpful.

Coordination is the third step in which you take your new awareness (recognition), your new acceptance of who you are just as you are, and you begin to coordinate your personality in such a way that you can harmonize all these different points of view that is sending conflicting messages into the universe.

In future posts, we will cover these very critical steps of the process of making the signals you send out from yourself to be what you want to be emitting, rather than having yourself be reactive to whatever is happening to you. Yes. This personal journey is work. But the benefits are so worth it, and you can DO IT. IT is possible. So hold the faith. Care for yourself and others, become aware of what you think, feel, and believe, and come back here to read about the next steps.

Other articles you might enjoy related to this are:
Shift Your State
Success Strategies When You Forget
Self Awareness
Survival and Contracting

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Quantum Leaps

Friday, July 31st, 2009

Quantum Leaps are often desired by those of us who use the Law of Success. Have you ever heard the phrase “Be careful what you ask for, for you may get it?” Of course I have wanted to have quantum leaps in my own life as well. I asked for it. I received it. It has been a surprise.

It showed up in the form of an illness that became life threatening. As a result, I had to surrender to the Universe and wait as The Mystery of Life takes me on its own journey. When I was in my late 20’s, I had a mega dream from which I woke with my heart pounding. In the dream I was on the back of a huge wild beast. I was infinitesimal by comparison. The beast was going its way, I had no control. I could barely hang on.

Recent events helped me remember that dream. That metaphor for the greater Mystery of Life helps me remember that Life is so much bigger than us. The Universe is so much more vast than us, and there are times when we need to surrender to the greater Power that is. And there are times that actually force us to do that.

My illness has done that. But in the process great transformation is occurring and I am looking forward to sharing that as time goes forward. Hope you are all well.

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Survival and Contracting

Tuesday, September 30th, 2008

Survival and Contracting

Survival throws us into a state of contraction. When you are worried about whether you can have a roof over your head and food to eat, the body tenses, the mind worries, and our emotions run riots of fear. If your body gets scared because someone else’s driving puts you in physical danger, your body goes contracted. Energy condenses and you pull inward when you are in survival. Muscles go tight. Thinking gets rigid. Feelings wrap us in strangulation. Everything contracts in survival. This is existing in survival consciousness.

No matter how much you may want to feel positive and optimistic, when your body, mind and feelings are in survival and contracting, it is very difficult to reach for positive thoughts. It is helpful to know about this state of survival, because if you can recognize it, then you do some things to help yourself move.

The first step is Recognition. “Oh. This is a survival state. My body mind and feelings are doing what they do when they are in survival.” This may be fight, or flight or paralysis. If your natural instincts are to fight when you are in survival, you can move easier. When you have anger there is more movement than when you have fear. Anger is actually movement up the emotional scale away from depression, worry and despair. Inventory what your body, mind and feelings do when they get scared so you will know and recognize when you have tipped into survival.

Acceptance is the second step. “Of course my body would tense up, and I would worry if I don’t have enough money for gas to get to work.” “Of course I get scared and angry if someone tailgates me closely. Of course I get scared or angry when I am in survival.”

Reassurance and comfort can be an essential third action step. “I’m OK. Things usually work out. I’m an adult and I can be creative and figure out something here. I can pray. I can ask for help. I can talk to another person. There is always some resource available to me.”

“I can breathe. I can relax. I can soothe my body, mind, and feelings. That part of me feels really small, and reacts in tension, but there is more to me than a scared part, or a child like part. I don’t have to have all the answers now. All I need to do is become aware that I am in contraction. I am in survival. Once I recognize that, I can begin to accept where I am and relax. As I reassure myself and remember that I have gotten out of these places before, my body relaxes, my mind lets go, and my feelings unwind. Then I am available to take even more action steps because I am moving out of contraction. The way becomes easier when I move out of survival awareness, and I can access more of myself.”

This kind of self talk gives your body mind and emotions reassurance. It is a helpful way to move out of survival thinking, feeling and acting.

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“Success Secrets: Success is a state of mind”

Monday, July 28th, 2008

Success Secrets: Success is a state of mind

Success Secrets are fervently searched for. People often search outside themselves. The truth is that success is a state of mind. Faith is a state of mind. The Law of Attraction tunes into that state of mind. Part of the success secret is to learn that sometimes our state of mind gets soured for a while, and that acceptance is a powerful key.

Today I was feeling wonderful. Then I had an unpleasant interaction with my sister. Within minutes my day went south. Success Secrets indicate that the Law of Attraction would attract circumstances that would mirror my state of being. It did.

My daughter reminded me of the exercise, given these conditions, what can I be happy about? We recited lots of things that we were grateful for as we drove into town. I got my vibration up a little more. Then I had a disappointment, and my vibration went down a lot. Law of Attraction provided me more circumstances to fit my lowered vibration.

When we don’t feel happy, it is hard to hold optimism and attract success. Success secrets are not easy to follow when we are on the bottom end of the emotional scale. Acceptance is a powerful way to turn the tide.

It is so easy when circumstances are not favorable, to lower our vibration or state of mind. This happens especially with people with whom we have a deep connection. There was too strong a gap between my feelings and the gratitude I was reaching for to counter the dive I made into being upset. Part of the success secret so ably put by the work of Esther Hicks and Abraham, is to simply accept where you are.

“So things went south. So I don’t like what happened today. It’s not the end of the world. I am doing pretty good. I am not forgetting what I have learned. I am having a little detour into a tide pool. It’s OK. I know from experience that I will recover and very soon. So for today, I accept that I don’t feel so great and it’s OK. In fact, feeling irritated and cranky is a far better place emotionally than being depressed or in despair. In fact, my irritation serves me well, because it stopped the slide downward.”

This kind of dialogue with self shows the practice of acceptance, an important success secret. “I accept myself. I accept my feelings. Everything will turn out OK.”

My body takes a deep breath. I relax. “That’s right, everything will be OK.” Acceptance is a powerful success secret. Today I accept where I am. Tomorrow, I will be renewed. Acceptance that self does not have to be perfect is an important success secret.

Thanks for stopping by. May acceptance accompany your journey. May success secrets be revealed to you continually.

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“Acceptance is Fundamental to the Law of Success”

Thursday, July 03rd, 2008


Acceptance is a part of the law of success.
Sometimes you just can’t rise to the occasion and be positive and feel success.

When you are not well, when you are tired, when you don’t have food to eat, or a place to stay, it is hard to feel successful, positive and upbeat. Find a way to accept “the what is” for this moment. You will put yourself back onto the path the law of success each time.

We humans have basic needs of being able breathe, have some shelter, have food for fuel for the body, water to hydrate all the organs, cells, bones, tissues. If any of those survival needs are threatened, it is very challenging to be upbeat and hold thoughts of success and optimism. We all accept that those are human needs. The law of success acknowledges these needs.

Acceptance without judgment is absolute key when you are in a place of survival. Be calm, breathe. Accept what the circumstances are. Allow your body to relax. The law of success gives you permission to not always be at your peak 24/7.

On our trip to the northwest, my daughter and I stayed with a friend whose husband smoked. My daughter had a severe allergic reaction. She felt as though her lungs just simply could not get enough air. When we left, we went to visit my sister who lives on a farm. Last night the huge yard was mowed, and my daughter woke up in terror because she could not breathe. There were grass pollens that amped up another allergic reaction. Fear gets in the way of the law of success.

Normally very positive and optimistic, she is not feeling well, very tired, not feeling success, and can’t get her emotional legs under her yet. It is imperative that she accept that she doesn’t feel well, and remember this will pass. When you study the law of success, you need to have strategies to cope with times like these.

We all have things that happen that impair our ability to be optimistic and think positive, which impacts our ability to be successful. Be gentle with self. Say things like “Of course I can’t be positive right now. I don’t feel well. Things will get better.” When you tell yourself you are getting better, when you are gentle, when you accept self where you are, you are practicing the law of success.

Treat yourself like you would a vulnerable child, or someone you really cherish. Accept where you are. Don’t rag on yourself. This time will pass. Give yourself some time and space to let the situation pass. Acceptance is part of the process of dealing with down times when you practice the law of success.

Sometimes late at night, when I am very tired, I begin to worry. I have learned to simply say to myself “I can’t do anything about this situation right now. I know that my thinking is impaired when I am tired. I am going to do something to take my mind off this now. I’ll revisit this topic tomorrow.” Primary to using the law of success, is knowing one’s limits. When one’s basic needs are compromised, when can’t be on the top of our game. That’s OK. It is what is. The universe knows and accepts this. You need to as well.

I accept that I am tired, and divert my attention to something else – usually by reading. I have practiced this enough so that I can do it even when I am really nervous. Acceptance is key to taking care of self when you are physically or emotionally down. The law of success does not say you will be hyper charged, feeling good every day. It says, “Accept where you are today, replenish, and tomorrow things will be different.”

Things are always clearer when you have rested, eaten, or drunk needed fluids. You are flowing with the law of success when you accept your basic needs with kindness.

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