Law of Success: The Untold Secrets

Law of Success:  The Untold Secrets

“LAW OF SUCCESS; WHAT ARE THE UNKNOWN STEPS?”

Thursday, May 29th, 2008 8:24pm

Law of Success, a timeless blueprint for wealth, well-being, joy and wisdom, has been written about for centuries. This blog is my exploration of the secrets.  I started out wanting more wealth. Then I wanted the sense of fulfillment that I thought Success would bring. The States of Being that assist success are essential. As my life has shifted, Well-being became a focus. Right now Health is first and foremost. And the gem I am finding in that search is Joy and lots of choices for Happiness.  You are invited into the journey. I hope that there is some wisdom found here :). Always check for your own inner resonance.

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Daily Meditation is Essential
Receptively Tuning In
Tuning in or Focusing
The Secret to Creating the Impossible
Victim No More
Resolve
Be Clear About What You Want: the Key to Vision Boards
What Takes Us Out Of Flow
Times Are A’ Changin
What Two Ingredients Put You Into Flow?
Vision Boards and Goal Setting
Darkness has Purpose
The Confidence Gap
Flowing or Bumping
Gifts of Adversity
Flow or Not to Flow; That is the Question

Dwell in Possibilities
Transformation is Happening
Caring and Consideration are
Important to Success

Take Tiny Steps When You are Bogged Down
Journeying Through The Gap
Recognizing Signs that the Universe Delivers
Victim Perpetrator Rescuer or Empowered?
Do You Stop Success with “I Can’t Because…..” Thinking?
What You Intend to Give
The Universe Always Surprises Us
Ride the Wild Dragon
A Success Story by a Reader of Law of Success
My New Book will be ready in Three Weeks
Intention and the Law of Success
Law of Success Vision Boards
Law of Success Risks
Meditation, Manifestation and the Law of Success
Ten Steps to Turn Burning Goals into Reality
Burning Goals
Meditate. Why?
Raise Your Vibration or Going Up the Emotional Scale
Law of Success when on the skids and subsequent Recovery
Vision and the Law of Success
What Do We Do When We Are In Real Trouble?
Setting Daily Intention
Burning Desire
Success Stories
Laws of Success in 13 Steps
Positivity a secret to success
Meditate into a new State of Being
Art of Connecting with the Power of Creation
New Year Resolutions & Vision Boards
Don’t Despair
Train for Success
Dare to Dream
Recognition, Acceptance, and Coordination Basics in Success
Recognize and Accept Dreams
Dreams and Survival Thinking
Law of Success Thirteen Proven Steps to Riches
Law of Success Strategies
Self Confidence and the Law of Success
Synchronicity and Success
Write It and It Will Happen
Intention
Quantum Leaps
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
Law of Success Resources
Shift Your State
Understanding Your State
Success Strategies & When You Forget
Appearances are Deceiving
Inspirational Practice, A Law of Success Strategy
Tell a New Story; Strategy of Law of Success
Life Flame and the Law of Success
Imagination and the Law of Success
Strengths and Success
Self Awareness
Law of Pure Potentiality

State of mind
Vibration, The Law of Attraction and the Law of Success
Prayer, Faith and the Law of Success
Holding the Question A Success Technique
The Secret Key to Law of Success #11 Control your Attention
Money and the Secret Law of Success
The Secret that was Edited Out of Think and Grow Rich
Never Give Up Hope
Survival and Contracting
Law of Attraction Success Secret
Success Secrets: Success is a state of mind

The Secret became a best seller demonstrating the law of success beyond belief. Are you aware there are more secrets behind The Secret? What are the untold secrets? “The untold Secret” is: Successful people do the things unsuccessful people won’t do, don’t do, or don’t know how to do! In the next many posts and pages the UNTOLD steps that complete some of what the Secret left out will revealed to you! Your state of Being is crucial to your success.

Have you ever wondered why some people are successful and wealthy while others — maybe even you — are not? Have you ever observed that successful people aren’t the most brilliant, the best educated, or the hardest working? Have you ever questioned how successful people think and believe, that maybe others, even you, may not think and believe right now? I’ve read and studied the law of success and the law of attraction for more than twenty five years now. Some people go on to great success.

Yet many others — using the same law of success they learned from the same sources — aren’t doing very well. Some even go into foreclosure and bankruptcy.

What’s the difference? Why do some people apply the law of success and live fulfilled and happy lives and others are fraught with poverty and failure? Yes, your unconscious beliefs do play a significant role in your success. They are not the only missing link however.

F. Scott Fitzgerald said “the rich are different from you and me”. That saying obscures the truth of the laws of success. The truth is that we are all far more similar than we are different.

Successful people have learned to apply the law of success in such a way that wealth, health and success begets more wealth, health and success.

They have learned how to apply the law of success in spite of worry, doubt, and fear.

They have learned how to apply the law of success in spite of doubting themselves sometimes and become their own best cheerleader.

They have learned how to apply the law of success by developing the courage to act and take risks in spite of being scared to act.

They have learned to apply the law of success by making careful studied choices to take as much of the risk out as possible.

They have learned to apply the law of success by fighting criticism from within and without.

They have learned to apply the law of success by dreaming really big and also taking small steps.

They have learned to apply the law of success by getting along with people and being a person whom others are willing to follow.

They have learned to apply the law of success by having congruity between who they are as a person and what they do.

They are honest, have strong values, and have a powerful faith.

They have learned to apply the law of success by visualizing success, by cultivating optimism, and by developing mental toughness.

Most importantly they have learned to apply the law of success by a utilizing a process of self mastery that respects themselves and others, develops discipline and organization, and allows them to tap creativity and wisdom from higher sources.

Here’s the best news of all. You can be as successful as you wish. Each one of the skills are learnable. You can learn to think, act, behave and be like the most successful of the successful and in your own unique way. In fact the only way to be successful, is to be uniquely you. But the characteristics are teachable and learnable. It is not only possible, it is absolutely within your grasp to become as successful as you wish. How much do you want to have success, good health, wisdom and wealth? Are you willing to go the distance?

A gambler in a recent movie asked “Is you in or is you out?” Your choice is not a gamble. Your choice is another step closer to success. Choice is powerful. Make your choice.

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LIFE IS GOOD

Saturday, June 23rd, 2018 11:06am

 

If there has been a focus in this blog during the last ten years, it has been “How can I live my life sublimely, in my greatest self, aligned and tuned in?  That is what I have concluded from my life experience. To be happy, to be full of well-being, to act in the world in an inspired way, to be successful, whole, healthy and wise; then there was a state of being that I aspired to.  I have spent an entire life trying to find the way to move out of my painful patterns of reaction, into a mode where I choose who I am, rather than be the Reaction to my Outward Environment.

Last night I remembered a beautiful moment in my life when that fullness of being, that connection with Life happened and it was magical.  I was 26 or so, attending a Sid Simon workshop on Values Clarification (which was really a personal growth workshop – but for me, it was spiritual). We continually affirmed each other.  We were constantly in pairs, looking into each other’s eyes for 2 minutes, answering the question that Sid asked us to speak about, and then with loving humor, we would feed back to that person something we absolutely adored about them (just from that 2 minute interaction).  It was profound for the young woman I was who was so starved for positive feedback.

On the last night (a Thursday) we had a talent show which lasted until 3:00 am. At 4:00 am we all loaded into cars and drove out to Miami Beach to watch the sun rise.

I think the sun rose for the  majestic first in my life metaphorically.  As I sat on my meditation bench, full from the experience with 40 – 50 people appreciating each other, I watched the sky lighten.  I was so full.  My heart soared. My spirit was peaceful.  As the sun began to sliver above the horizon, my soul began to sing. I moved into the most profound connection that I have ever experienced.  My cells sang with exuberant joy.  I was completely a part of all that is. I was the sky, I was the moon, I was the water, I was the sand. I was the wave, I was the ginormous awareness bigger than a personal self could ever be.  I wept with joy. I was called to celebrate this incredible beautiful experience we call life by dancing with arms raised into the water.

That time felt endless. There was no time. There was no space, there was only joyous communion.

There is so much more to this story.  Miraculous things happened which I will save for another time.

Today, I am sitting in a study, writing, looking out onto the beautiful world, just having returned from an incredible event in Nanaimo Canada called The Science and Spirituality Conference.  From Wednesday June 13 till Wednesday June 20, I travelled and soaked up the human wisdom that some people I greatly admire have generated from their life’s work; Gregg Braden, Dr. Joe Dispenza, Lynne McTaggart, Dr. Bruce Lipton, and Lee Carroll.  I feel today as I felt that gorgeous Friday morning in Miami. Truly blissful, connected to Oneness.

Together 1500 people along with the staff and the presenters, created a field of connection and possibility that has allowed me to feel like dancing with joy, as I did in the Atlantic waters. Now some 40 years+ I am bathing in the waters of my soul while living next to and visiting the waters of the Pacific.

I have aspired to a State of Being where my personal self is aligned with my Source Self.  I am feeling as though I have asked and asked and asked, and finally the universe has given me far more than I ever could have anticipated.

The three months leading up to the conference helped me anchor my intention.  It also allowed some deep processes that cleared the obstructions that kept me mired in reaction.  Unpleasant they were, but I embrace them so excitedly because they freed me to go to the conference free of expectation, free of trying to get what I needed, free from trying to take what I wanted out of desperation, and move to a state of appreciation of myself for going, appreciation for the staff for creating this miraculous event, and the appreciation of and wonder of that many people coming together of like mind.

I feel as though I have circled again into that state of bliss and oneness that led to miracles.  But the state of Being In Oneness is so compelling, that I am so happy to just be here in this moment, in this time, still connected to that incredible field of Quantum Possibility, the Divine, the Matrix, Source, none of which really names even closely what the experience is.

How powerful.  We are living in such wonderful times.  They can be uncomfortable, but such a huge state of shift is happening.  And we are a part of it. LIFE IS GOOD!

What an amazing journey life is!  I feel like I have spent all my life coming to this point in the here in now, where I finally can be the me that I came here to be.  I stand on the cusp of a fascinating birthday – one which I have faced in the past with quite a bit of trepidation.

Now, I am so excited to see what the next 30 or 40 years brings.  Thank you for joining this journey with me.

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Daily Meditation is Essential

Thursday, May 03rd, 2018 9:52am

My life has revolutionized itself in the last 60 days. I have taken up the practice of a certain type of meditation. It has become the highest priority in my life. Every day, that half hour of meditation is more important than anything else.

I have been meditating for at least 48 years, in some fashion. What’s so special about what I am doing now? Nothing! The fact that I am doing it every day is what is special. It is turning my life around.

All of my adult life I have wanted a stable center that I can count on. The older I have gotten, the more important it has become. I am a strong personality, but also a very intuitive and sensitive person. I often have felt in the past that I lived on the top of the sea where the waves collided and crashed, and my life in a small boat was mostly reactive. I have asked many years for a way to become my own stable base to be anchored into the still waters of the deep.

Finally, after starting this practice which I created myself (no, it’s not eastern meditation), I am on fire with energy, with happiness, and with a deep connection to my own stable base. Holy Smoke!

Over the last 10 years I have written in this blog many times about meditation. Two years ago I started a kind of meditation that had me sit outside and just be. It’s wonderful. You can read about it in Receptively Tuning in. I still love it, and still use it.

In Meditate to a New State of Being I write about yet another style of meditation of becoming soft while looking into the flame of a wood stove. I have a style of meditative writing I have been doing for more than 35 years which I describe in “Tap Your Wisdom.” I use prayer as a meditation as well as imagery. One of my most favorite techniques I call 17 seconds which I embrace in “Prosperity Success Secret of 17 Seconds.” Meditation is not new to this blog. I have written a category of entries about acquiring a State of Being where you can be your best self, and tap into success and the flow of life.

This blog began as an exploration of the Law of Success. It gravitated over time to talk about the Art of Creation of your success by tapping into your Source Self (the law of attraction). To create the magnified results we want, I have concluded we have to lift our vibration, integrate the various aspects of our self, and align into a state of flow and joy. Often we send very mixed signals to the universe. Getting those signals cohesive is important and can only be done in a certain state of being. The brief description offered in The Art of Connecting with the Power of Creation might help.

That’s a short summary of what I have written to you these last many years. After all this time, I feel like I have made another breakthrough, and it came as a result of the pain of the dark night of the soul that I lived through from January through early March of this year resisting the call of my sublime self. I had a ‘come to Jesus’ moment with my inner wisdom and told it how I really felt, and two days later I sat down, meditated, and my life began to change and blossom. I can’t wait to tell you more.

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Receptively Tuning In

Tuesday, November 28th, 2017 3:32pm

My intention is to have more inner stability so that I am at peace and happy no matter what is happening with my health, with my life, with my finances, with my housing, with politics, with the community where I live; no matter what is happening in my outside or inside world.

While I was ill for so long, I began feeling at the mercy of my illness (a victim mentality). When I got depressed as I watched the national and global scene this year, I felt at the mercy of current events. When I got mad at what was happening in the community where I lived, I wanted to rant and scold, and make others bad or wrong (perpetrator mentality). When I got afraid for my daughter as her life changed, I wanted to help (invoking my seeing of her as a victim, and me as a rescuer).  None of these stances; victim, perpetrator, rescuer; come from a centered, empowered place.  So we all have these perspectives inside us.  We have grown up in cultures that evoke that of us.  But today’s topic is not about the victim, perpetrator rescuer or drama triangle, it is about trying to get off that platform, and in tune with our largest vision.

One last thought about the drama or victim triangle, is that we go there when we are afraid or have some deep anxiety.  It is often the way we experience our power (either under or over someone else, or by feeling like we know more than someone else so can help them – yuck).

So one way off that triangle is to feel our own internal power.  Another way is to feel at peace and free of fear.  Being happy is a very wonderful way to stay off the triangle.

Curiously, success – which so many of us reach for, is our way of trying to be happy.  We think “if I can just have lots of success, lots of money, good relationships, security, I will be happy.

In the Abraham Hicks work, if you are happy, you set up internal conditions, you set up alignment with Source so that you feel happy, and what you have desire for is much more likely to flow to you.  That too is beyond today’s entry, but it is basic to my approach.

I want to be happy. I don’t want to worry about the future, the present, and I want to look with anticipation to the continuation of this adventure of life.

So my continuing question these days is “how do I stay happy”?  One of my ways (there are many), is to attune to and align with the Life Force that flows through me.   You could call it the Source that flows through me.   To do that, I need to be receptive.

Now I have a very active and sometimes wild mind. It does not like being quiet.  So I have developed a number of ways to deal with the mind of mine that likes to take an image, or an event, chew it to death, and show me how awful the world is.  Nope.  That is not conducive to being happy.

Most meditation is for the purpose of doing one thing:  Quietening the mind.  So I have to outsmart it.  The news here is that I have done it enough, so that I have confidence, and I know how to adjust my focus.  As you learn, you just have to practice, not judge yourself, and note what works, gently leading self back to the state you are reaching for. The state I am looking for is the flow and being happy. One of the two ingredients for being in Flow is to be happy.

Here’s one practice I do that really helps.  I want to be in the flow. I go outside as early in the day as I can, usually with a cup of hot tea. I sit down in a place where I am very unlikely to be interrupted, and I look and watch. For a while nothing happens.  I take a breath and allow myself to relax a bit more. I observe. I listen.  I hear noises, the train, traffic, and after a while, I might begin to hear bird sounds.  That takes a while, because if I step out onto the deck, in the back, it takes a while for any activity to happen.

As I look at the sky and the trees, and the grass, I find something that I appreciate about this particular day.  Today, it was raining, So I was appreciative for the overhang over the deck. I appreciated the warmth of my two coats, and that the weather was warm enough that I could stay outside today.  I love the cup I use for my tea, and I savor the warmth of holding the cup in my hand.  These are very simple things.  Yesterday, even though it was grey, it was not raining, so I appreciated the rain-free day.

As I appreciate where I am, my focus is on this moment, not on anything about what I am going to do for the day, It is just bringing attention to this moment.  When I find something to appreciate, I almost smile.  That feels good. I try to smile, and that feels even better.

Nature is very soothing to me.  Green is beautiful. I look at the evergreen trees, and the structure of the trees that have lost all their leaves.  Looking at their shape pleases me.  And I smile a little.  And I take a deep breath and relax some more.  I notice that my focus goes just a little diffuse. I am sitting very still.  I am waiting for what I have discovered next.

I notice that as I continue to relax, and stay watching what is happening at this very moment, and feeling the very small pleasures of my body in this moment, I get even quieter, and I go deeper and more relaxed.  I am looking for nothing (yet), but simple seeing what the world has to show me today – which more likely is some kind of animal life.

The more still I am, the more relaxed I am, the better I am feeling. I smile. I wait.  I know that most likely I will see birds.  But they are needing to know I am safe and not a threat. They don’t show up for a while.

As I navigate this time of being outside, I know it is a sacred time, and I don’t usually get impatient. The waiting is part of stilling the mind.  My eyes are active.  I think that is my secret. Observing, my focus is not on what I am thinking, but what I am seeing.  I am comfortable for the most part, I get happy the longer I sit there, and I know that eventually I will see some kind of animal, and then I will feel delight.  They have begun to show me their world, and its a delight.

Today, before I saw any birds, I wondered “What do birds do while it is raining?”  That was the most thought I had, and almost at that moment, a small bird flew into the leafless tree in front of me, landed, and then started shaking off its wings.  I smiled, and savored seeing the bird and what it was doing.  Then I saw more birds, and it was lovely to watch what they were doing.  Soon I began to hear bird calls, and the bird I was watching responded to the call of another bird.  Watching Life in the form of a little bird is intoxicating.

Now, I am no longer aware of how cold it is, or my wet clothes from sitting down on a damp chair, I am captivated by the delight of what I am watching.

While I watch the birds, I am not thinking of anything but the joy of watching them, and I sink deeper into the experience and savor it.

Every day it is different. Yesterday I saw a squirrel working on building a nest, and watched him traverse his highway through the trees.

My heart opens, my mind is quiet, my body is quiet, and I soak up the stillness and the privilege of being alive.

I am more tuned into my own Beingness.

I have created a container in myself of joy and attunement.  I go into my life for the day. I hold bliss to my heart.

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Tuning in or Focusing

Saturday, November 25th, 2017 12:49pm

I’m better! How wonderful! I’m happy!! I’ve focused on a food plan for more than a year that has significantly reduced inflammation in my body( a version of the paleo plan). My colon is better. My lungs are much better.

Many, including my GI doctor, thought I was in major suffering because of my diet. It was not suffering. I had been so sick, that nothing was more important than feeling better again. No bowl of ice cream was tempting when I knew that my colon and my physical energy would take over a week to get back to normal.

It was a very simple choice to me. Do I go with a momentary pleasure for sugar, or do I have a whole week of feeling good? No doubt on that choice. I’ll take feeling good most of the time. I experimented from time to time, and every time, I would conclude: Nope, not worth feeling so sluggish that I can barely move for a week.

So that process I have gone through with my health came out of a deep desire to get well. Getting well was way more important than any thing else. Took being in bed for months to be willing to let go sugar in everything.

Took 3 years to make that decision. Once made, however, I had a focus that was unshakeable. The decisions out of that focus were easy. I also had help. The Universe provided a friend who was willing to take me under her wing and show me how to cook on the plan, how to not feel deprived of desserts, and alternative cooking compounds that would support my diet. Way wonderful. I was so grateful.

While I was focusing on getting well, I forgot about being happy. Things got heavy and ponderous. My body was in survival, and I knew it.

Finally, now, I am well enough that I want to recover feeling good emotionally most of the time. I want to hold the stability of well being no matter what is happening in the world, no matter how I feel, no matter how I respond to other people.

My success with my health gives me much confidence that I can begin to build a stable center inside of good feeling thoughts, so that I can tune into well-being and happiness.

It takes as much focus and commitment as the food plan did. Every morning now, I get up and do something that helps me tune into better feelings and thoughts. It’s like looking through a whole new pair of eyes. I will write a few entries on what I am doing, because it is pretty easy; once I made the decision that I was deeply committed to feeling emotionally well. Good to talk with you again. Be well.

Here’s a link to a you tube video I made about Centering, that you might enjoy. Identification Exercise

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The Secret to Creating the Impossible

Friday, July 14th, 2017 4:37pm

I am SO much better. To celebrate my return, I wanted to share a very simple secret to creating a reality that you want, but seems improbable. It is so simple.

All you have to really do is
know that it is possible.

This sounds too easy to be true. But it is simple, and it is true. Ah, but the however…… to know (not just believe) that it is possible: that is the conundrum. I have written about it repeatedly here on this blog. Here are steps to the creation of the impossible.

1. Be tuned in, tapped in, and turned on to your aliveness.
2. Raise your vibratory rate again, and again, and again.
3. Do your personal and spiritual growth work.
4. Trust in your own inner compass and use your intuition.
5. Connect with the best and highest of yourself.
6. Connect with the largest vision of your life.
7. Stay in flow as much as possible
8. Enjoy and delight in the present moment.
9. Know that what you desire is possible.
10.Journey through the gap between “what is currently” to the “what is of the future”.

“What?##!!” you say. “That could take a lifetime.” So it could, but what a lifetime it is! And as I have said so many times before, it is all a State of Being. Some people call it a mindset. But there is much more to it than your mind. It is your whole being, body, soul, emotions, mind, and consciousness.

A story might help. I had a health condition called colitis. (I changed the verb to past tense, did you notice). My Dad and his brother also had it. My Dad was forced to retire when in his early 40’s because he could not work.

My colitis began in my late 40’s and I was able to work. Last
fall I resolved to make my health my top priority. The autoimmune food plan that I have committed to has really made an improvement. I’ve been feeling better.

However, in my secret self, I did not believe I would ever be without this ‘disease.’ I’ve heard many stories of other people who were able to make themselves better, but inside I figured that was for other people, it couldn’t happen to me. One day something really got my attention.

I was telling my oldest brother about my condition, and he just out of the blue, said “You know don’t you, that Dad healed himself of this when he was 65?” I said no, I didn’t know that. My whole being reeled!

He continued. “You are doing the same thing, you know. You are eating only those foods that don’t create inflammation. You are eating happy meat, you are eating organically. You are fundamentally creating the same circumstance that Dad did. The other thing he did was gather some prayer warriors and ask for a healing.”

I thought to myself, “My Dad was really a lot sicker than I ever have been. If he could live with the disease that long, and then cure it when he was 65, then by golly so can I!”

And all of a sudden, healing my body of the disease became very real to me. I could now envision the possibility of being free of Colitis. The Universe has offered me some very different ways of healing it that I didn’t expect. I totaled my car in March while driving to see my daughter. My doctor offered a brand new procedure to take out my colon except for a few inches of it (no outside bag). “You would be disease free” she said.

Dying or having major surgery was not what I had in mind. But there was certain humor about the fact that I could be completely disease free in those possibilities. I passed on those options.

But now I knew it was possible to become free of this condition. And I am getting better and better and better. Sometime soon, I intend to report to you that I no longer have that condition.

When you know something CORE deep, it is so much easier to journey through the unknown of the GAP without clutching in fear or the need to figure it out.

So that’s the profound secret to changing Reality from what you have to: what you want it to be. Just this simple. Know that it is possible.

Let me hear from you. please share your story with me. You can talk to me on the Public Facebook Group called “Success Factors

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Victim No More

Monday, October 10th, 2016 6:32pm

With it the decision arrived that I will be victim no more.

“And a resolve so bone deep that it seared out all the hopelessness and despair and left complete resolve that I will live my life differently no matter what the circumstances. Now that is resolution I want you to know. And although my diseases are still active, I am happy. Bone Deep happy. And I intend to stay that way no matter what.”

That’s how my last post ended. I wrote it Sept 16, 2016. Resolve is a powerful thing. Its going to take a book to write about how I arrived at that place of resolve. But I want to share it with you. It is so important.

My food plan is going great. Rarely am I really tempted to eat something off my plan. It’s called the AutoImmune Protocol. Very interesting and great. I am eating good meat and seafood, cooked vegetables, and fruit. Anything else is no go: no dairy, no nuts, no grains, no eggs, no nightshade (like tomatoes and potatoes). Here’s what’s happening. My lung and sinus symptoms are a bit better. My colitis – just barely some incremental improvement. But I am have so much more energy I am blown away. My memory has improved significantly, very little fatigue, very little pain, and I plan to go a few more months on this plan until my body has reset it self. My goal was to reduce inflammation in my body.

I had just started on this new food plan, when I had that horrible awful no good day out of which was born this bone deep resolve. The resolve is carrying me through wild times. I have been on six pet sitting gigs, which means I have moved six times since I last wrote. And I have to carry my new foodstuffs around with me. Arrowroot powder, carob powder, olive oil, coconut oil are some things I move because I need to cook all my food. Eating out could mean I might eat something not on my plan (like sugar)!

Now I have not been a cooking person. And I’m learning to love cooking for myself. I love finding the challenge of how to have a pizza when you can’t have any of the traditional flours. It’s possible. Just look online for AIP pizza and there’s someone who has found a recipe. So I have had lots of challenges with my time, and I am staying true to my resolve.

My intuition is kicking in big-time. I decided to write a book about this journey. I have a lot of skills that are valuable, and knowledge from walking in these shoes. “Coping with autoimmune disease”s is my working title. As I have gotten excited about writing, I had this incredible thought, what if autoimmune diseases are related to people who are highly sensitive? Guess what. There’s a big correlation!!!!!!!!!!

So off I jaunted in my research, and got one of the biggest epiphanies of my adult life. Part of what Elaine Afron talks about in The Highly Sensitive Person is the arousal of the nervous systems of people who have this temperament. I have always been told “You are too much.” “You are too ‘big’ in your energy.” You laugh too loud, you cry too loud, why can’t you be steady as a rock like most people. When you come into the office, its like a whirlwind happens. You really impact people too much with who you are. Calm down, be normal, be quiet, be thoughtful.” And more of those kinds of gems (roll of the eyes). And this was never about my behavior, this was always about the personhood of me. (so it felt).

When I was working on my master’s degree in human development, I specifically targeted a population that I wanted to work with. I wanted to work with Adults who have the same temperament as I do. Back then I was studying with Linda Budd Ph.d who wrote “Living with the Active Alert Child.” These are some of the coolest people in the world (as are the highly sensitive people), but they also have some big challenges. Think Bill Clinton, Jane Fonda, and you can kind of get a feeling for what they might be like.

So both the Active Alerts and the Highly Sensitive People receive enormous amount of negative feedback both because of their behavior, and their being-ness. Each temperament claims about 20% of the population, and it will be fascinating to see if they are subsets of each other.

When I studied Active Alerts, I knew that I could get really challenged by being in groups, because I didn’t have some of the screens that lots of people do to screen out incoming stimuli. What happens when all that stimuli gets in, it just floods the body, setting the body into alert status. The world does not feel safe. Cortisol floods the system as does adrenalin, and away we go. I just had not put it together that the arousal of my everyday life was creating nervous system overload. What I called earlier – arousal. Big thing to find out.

So of course you can guess what happened, when I got this epiphany and all the excitement of seeing my whole life and my life’s work beginning to emerge. I hit overload and overwhelm. Typical of overloaded arousal. This, I am sure, is what wears down people’s immune system.

After a weekend of being in the overload soup, I remembered!!!! Once again I am feeling victimized by my own nervous system. What crap!  Literally (laughing out loud – with colitis – well that’s more information that you need on this blog).

As soon as I recognized that, I immediately calmed down and began remembering all kinds of techniques I can use to calm my system and myself down.

So I have learned an enormous amount about me, my relationship with my body has changed, and finally I see a way to find a population who wants my work and needs it desperately, and who I understand very well, so I feel I am finally moving into my own, and my own’ life purpose.  Part of it is to heal myself. Part of it is to show others that it is possible.  I have created a Facebook Group where you can chat with me called “Success Factors.” Please drop by and chat. And like this page please. We are in wonderful times of change. Let’s do it.

I will be victim no more. That’s a resolution. Wherever I feel like a victim, it shows up, and now my illness points me directly to it.

So now my illness has become my best ally. And I have no doubt and all confidence that this new path will take me to success beyond my wildest dream.

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Resolve

Monday, September 19th, 2016 10:56am

This has been a year of strong transitional movement. I know a lot of people who are challenged. As these waves of energy cascade, I have had strong reactions and sometimes felt at the mercy of forces beyond my control. Yet there are huge signs of transformation.

The Kiln

This has been a wild year, painful and intense, deeply fatiguing, and finally freeing. I have been terrified that 3 people I hold dear would die. And my sweet 33 year old Melissa did die. The brother to whom I am closest in age has had a heart that has been in flutter for over 16 months. He came to visit in June, and I was grateful to see him one more time.

My own health has been compromised as my two autoimmune disorders have flared and I can’t get them settled down.

Out of all the heat in the kiln of life, I find myself resolving to find a yet new way to live. While I have been saying that my health has been a top priority this last year, my actions have been to keep pushing me just a little further, to keep keeping on because I said I would do it, or I felt compelled to get that task done. I wasn’t always the driver of my own bus (one of my inner family or emotions was- click for more info). Sometimes impatience, and a need to get something accomplished drove my bus, not my more wise patient, compassionate self.

Have you noticed there are lots of people who are being challenged? When in a time where we have no control of the outside forces we can feel hopeless. Not so in charge of my inside forces these past months, it has been a time for me to stop.

The Fire

A sequence of circumstances brought me to a standstill. It took first intense anger to propel me to an inner place where I could allow the intense anger to morph into resolve. I was preparing for a colonoscopy (which I have done many times). They are not pleasant, but I had my tried and true method to get through the preparation. This time it didn’t work. This time my body had a violent reaction to the 12 hours forced cleansing. As I began recovering, I hit pure fury at the inhumane process.

But it turns out that what was inhumane, was my continual pushing my body to perform physical tasks far beyond its capability. So the fury I felt at the medical profession was a mirror to the fury that my body felt to being forced to be a slave to my will. In my imagination, my body was acting like a dog on a leash that finally laid down and would not walk any further because it had no more energy to give.

So no matter my outside commitments or my desires to do those things, I have had to stop.

Immediate Feedback

My body has such a state of depletion that it cannot restore itself. So it is giving me signals. If this doesn’t work for me, then I bleed. If I eat the wrong food, I bleed. If I get stressed, I bleed, if I get over-tired, I bleed. In real time, within the hour, my body gives me red feedback.

When I am this depleted, I am not really giving to others, when I do something that I said I would do. I don’t have the cushion of finess when I talk. I have been at a number of committee meeting, and as I would say my truth, it shaved off their skin as my words whistled by because what I saw and said was delivered with such intensity. That’s not a give to anyone.

So I am having to say no sometimes to things I think would give to me. I had to say no to going to a 4 day training that was two states away. Too much travel and too intense a schedule, my body could not do it. Last night at the last minute, I chose not to go to Chorus practice (I love singing) because I was too tired. When I signed up for chorus this season, I told myself I would just go when I felt really good, and wouldn’t go when I don’t, and if that means I don’t sing in the final concerts, then that’s what it means.

Phoenix Rising

But there is real transformation at work in this time for me. Because I am forced with instant feedback to see what helps and what does not help, I am able to make life changing choices.

I resolved changing the things I can. I resolve to eat on an Autoimmune Food Protocol. Some people put their diseases into remission and even heal themselves. I have the will power and the resolution to stay on that plan.

Eliminating stress is another thing I can change. How? I’m taking a sabbatical from things that create stress for me. I’m re-reading a book called “How We Choose to Be Happy – The 9 choices of Extremely Happy People-their secrets, their stories.” This is a way that “truly happy people make conscious decisions about how they will confront life’s challenges. In the face of sometimes overwhelming circumstances, they create happiness by making the same nine internally driven choices.”

Summary

So I have told you about my horrible, no good awful year 🙂 (like Alexander’s No good, horrible awful day – a delightful children’s book).

I’ve told you a basic response that came out of the pain, fatigue, and feeling powerlessness.

Fury came. Fury delivered the emotional energy that I could morph into resolve.

With it the decision arrived that I will be victim no more.

And a resolve so bone deep that it seared out all the hopelessness and despair and left complete resolve that I will live my life differently no matter what the circumstances. Now that is resolution I want you to know. And although my diseases are still active, I am happy. Bone Deep happy. And I intend to stay that way no matter what.

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Transformation (includes The Gifts of Adversity)

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Be Clear About What You Want: The Key to New Year Vision Board

Tuesday, January 05th, 2016 12:44pm

As I  review my vision board from last year,  I want to be much clearer this coming year about my vision or my goal. To stay in Flow, you need to know where you are going.  Directionality is helpful to the Universe to deliver what it is that you want. Building a business? Then you have to be clear. “I want my number of clients to double this year.”

Let’s look at an example. I want to have much better health this year. There are many small steps I need to take to get better health. Dancing, walking, drinking lots of water, leaving sugar out of my diet, getting enough sleep, taking my medications every day, and doing the protocols that my doctors have given me every day is an important step. I need to have the intention of getting more well, I need to vision and imagine my lungs, my digestive system, my bones and muscles, my body getting more fit.

Last year, I didn’t have enough specificity on my vision board about health.  I did stop a lot of stress by reducing my reactivity to people and situations.  That really helped.  I went ten months with having almost no sugar. I lost weight (a side benefit). I look much better.  So I made progress.

Health area is top right pie

There are other ways I need more progress.  I want to expand my beliefs to KNOW that much better health is possible (I am watching movies like “The Living System,” “You Can Heal Your Life,” “Awake,” “What the Bleep.”)  I want to be open to the Miracle of Life and Mystery. I want my lungs to be clear, vibrant, able to breathe deeply.

Knowing what you want (with the specific steps you can take), gives your unconscious, the universe, and the universal genies the pictures of what you would like to create in your life.  Then it sends you all kinds of synchronicities and opportunities to help you move in that direction.

Last year I had the simple word Dance on my vision board. My pulmonary doctor told me that dance would be very good for me. So with fierce intentionality, I have been going dancing, and taking waltz lessons.  I love it. It is fun, and it is helping me build a healthier body. Last night I began my intermediate waltzing class. It was dark, cold, but my intention blazed and kept me going and I never even thought about staying home.  Now I want to have that same intentionality about the other things that will give me much better Health.

I have used Health as an illustration 0f one area in my life where I am building fierce intentionality. I am going to post a picture of what last’s year’s vision board looked like. I will take the whole month of January, if I need it, to get even clearer about the topics that I am giving myself as goals for this coming year.

 

A couple of other blog entries might be helpful for creating Vision Boards

Law of Success Vision Boards
New Year’s Resolutions and Vision Boards
Prosperity Secret of 17 Seconds
Intention
Setting Daily Intentions

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What Takes Us Out of Flow

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2015 9:01pm

A couple of weeks ago, I was in the strongest current of flow that I have ever experienced.  I wanted to shout from the rooftops about how wonderful Life is. Slowly that state of Flow ebbed away, and I was just determined to find out how it went away and recapture it.

Today, I woke with such sadness that I wanted to weep. Yesterday, I wrote and wrote. Today. I wept a little, then listened to a concert that I sang in two weeks ago, and found my smile again.

I needed to update this web site. I found the passwords and started the process, and before you know it, I had a mess on my hands. There were broken links. When I went to correct one, another would show up.  I tried to fix one on the blog entry “What Two Ingredients Put You Into Flow.”  I must have needed to relearn that lesson again and again, because every time I fixed something, something else went out of whack.

In the process, I remembered and relearned about what helps to get into Flow, what takes me out of Flow, and How to Return to Flow.

Broken Links

These times are helping us find the broken links inside ourselves so that we can Restore ourselves to our natural State of Being which I call Flow.

  1. Physical Exhaustion can take us out of Flow. After the concert on December 12, I was exhausted, and though I gave myself some time to replenish, it wasn’t enough.
  2. Berating ourselves can take us out of Flow. I pushed myself to get presents in the mail to my daughter for her birthday (which is today) and for Christmas. I wasn’t entirely happy with the pajamas I got for her, and then I missed getting them to the Post Office before closing. I had this quiet but hurtful conversation with myself about not having chosen the right gifts, and not having gotten to the post office in time.  While I have really significantly improved my self-talk, I was susceptible to more negative talk to myself because I cared that I got my daughter’s presents to her before she flew out today, and because I was tired.
  3. Focusing on the negative in the situation rather than in the positive will take you out of Flow.  When I was in the state of Flow two weeks ago, both positive and negative were happening in my life.  I just wasn’t reactive to the negative, and I paid more attention to the positive.  I sold my car two weeks ago.  I spent all Fall getting ready for the sale, and it hadn’t happened.  I determined that I would sell it a particular Saturday. Even though I had the remnants of a migraine headache, I awoke, went to Craig’s list, edited my past ad and got it listed. Two hours later I had a phone call, and 2 hours after that my car was sold.  I was in Flow. My hurting head was not what I focused on.  My car Sold!  When a couple of weeks later I was tired, and started “beating up on myself,” my focus changed from what was going well, and wonderful, to what was going wrong.
  4. Reacting to external circumstances (from our smaller parts) will take us out of Flow.  One of my neighbors parked too close to me the night I was taking my packages to the post office.  I got irritated because I was in a hurry, and it slowed me down to drop my packages, and to skinny through the slender opening.  I spoke sharply about that to my neighbor whom I was taking to pick up her car from the repair shop.  Contrast that scenario with the one two weeks ago, where I went to the morning rehearsal and there was no parking. It was raining hard, there was traffic everywhere, but I found joy seeing my town doing the Jingle Bell Run with their dogs – in the rain. After the rehearsal, I walked back through the rain and cold, and when I got to my beautiful new car, I burst into tears of Joy. I was cold, wet, and tired, but my heart was thrilled that I had this new little car in my life.  I enjoyed the tears and the feeling of deep appreciation that came from being in the Zone, in the Flow. Being present to the moment in its joys and sorrows, and all its realities is a part of Flow.  Reacting from the smaller part of me takes me out of Flow.
  5. Caring what others think more than caring about how we feel will take us out of Flow. I really cared about my daughter, and I cared how she would respond. She would have been OK had I not gotten the packages to her in time. Disappointed yes, but in the scheme of things, she would have understood.  But me, no, my caring what she might think or feel if I didn’t get the package to her was more important than listening to my intuition and to my own physical well-being. I didn’t want her to be disappointed, so I pushed myself when I shouldn’t have.  So increment by tiny increment, I let my wellbeing fade away, and found myself out of the State of Flow.
  6. Trying to Control Circumstances and other people will take us out of Flow. My friend and I planned some errands one day this week. I wanted to pick up some parts to repair a toilet. While we were having breakfast, we got interrupted and our day completely went upside down. So I spent the day not doing what I had planned, but I did manage to not get upset with our self-invited family who went along. The positive out of that is that my surrogate brother helped me choose the toilet parts, and then installed them in 20 minutes. Which was a huge gift to me.  It would have taken me four times as long. In quite a few ways that day, I did stay with the flow. A while back, I would have tried to take charge and herd everyone along.  That day, I drove my newer car (which gave me a little control – of at least the route where we were going).  Because I treated them respectfully, I got another benefit of having Ed show me all the attributes of televisions that I wanted to buy, and the cheapest way to get the best picture.  Sometimes Flow takes us to different places that we didn’t expect.

These are just a few of the things that took me out of flow.  There are more for sure.

But let’s remember the two things that help us move to the flow state.

      A. Have a sense of where you are going.
      B. Be Happy along the way.

Yesterday while I was writing, I ended looking at my Vision Board that I constructed in January of 2015. My vision Board gave me direction for the year. It helped me set a direction for the year and have a sense of where I wanted to go.

Today as I was trying to fix the broken links on my website, I was reminded of the long list I wrote in February about How to Be Happy Along the Way which is the last part of the blog entry. Please refer to it to find ways to regain your happiness along the way. That one blog entry is a self study course with links to other entries on the subject. Enjoy if you have the time.

We don’t really have “broken links” inside us, but I loved the metaphor that the Universe gave me to relearn. I just need to tweak and fine tune my link. My link to Source. My link to Self.

These times are wonderful workshops to tweak and fine tune – and that is the way I choose to see these times. We are being given moment by moment notice of where we are tapped in and tuned in, and where we are not.  I choose to learn the lessons.  Blessings to you and yours.

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